Help advice wanted

[helplessmumski]

Some back ground; my son was born via ivf. I was told I needed an induction, which ended in emergency c section. Research later I didn’t need an induction. And I had nobody advocating for me. Then my child care promised pre pregnancy let me down and instead of relatives he’s now in nursery with me flexing my hours to spend as much time as I can with my child.
Every time something happens I have some telling me how I should do it, or going against my wishes as a parent. I feel let down, disappointed, angry and sad at the same time. As well as the pressure to do the right thing, which I don’t know what it is until some mentions it in passing usually as a cutting comment.
Does anyone else feel that the time that you have with your small person is being ruined by outside influences and you want to retreat to a dessert island away from swimming lessons, toddler milestones, juggling full time work and full time mummy?

Who is telling you that you’re doing things wrong? You need to get rid of them and not put up with that from anyone in your life. I didn’t have this experience personally, but everyone around me knows I don’t tolerate being talked to like that. If this is your mum, a sister, a friend, you need to see a lot less of them, if at all. If it’s social media, stay off it.

You know your child best. You do you and do what’s right for them - which may not be right for someone else and that’s fine. Some of this is going to simply be having more confidence in yourself.

I remember going through times when I felt I didn’t or couldn’t get things right - there was always someone (physically or mentally) telling me something I should or shouldn’t be doing whether for my babiy’s well being or my own. It was worst with the first. When I stopped paying attention to those voices and started really listening and looking and engaging with this little person who needed me as me, it became easier. As confidence in myself as a mother grew I found it got easier to ignore accept or reject advices - and do what I felt was best for us.
Each parenting stage and any new child brings new challenges and self-doubts but I’d say learning to listen and trust your own instincts is a key to getting through, growing and enjoying your family - and keeping some joy in in your own life!