How do you handle relatives crossing boundaries by kissing your baby?

[DoNotLoseHope]

How do you get about when people cross boundaries with kissing your baby. I’ve had 2 instances now where people have crossed the boundary. The first one I gave a piece of my mind to and upon hearing what’s happened and how upset it made me made the second one occur The recent one, happened at an event in a hall, this long distance related uncle came over from the other side of the room and planted a kiss on my babies cheek and later laughed and said I want to see “ what the dad ( my husband ) will say to me” … my baby started crying after the kiss because this man in his 70s had a really sharp moustache and beard .. we have a wedding coming up and I feel really annoyed that now my baby is a target of fun to see if we will react honestly as first time parents after a 20 week previous loss and 5 years of fertility battles we got to this stage of having our dream baby.

On a practical level baby wearing is good at preventing this at larger events especially if baby is facing you

Well firstly a kiss on the cheek/forehead is not going to cause harm, so don't stress about the things that have already happened.

But in terms of them trying to wind you up on purpose, I'd not be having that at all. So either put baby in a sling or don't go. If anyone asks why you're not there, be honest: "Because Uncle Knobhead has forgotten his manners and has made it clear he will do his best to antagonise me as a new mother, so we've decided we're doing ice cream and Grey's Anatomy instead."

@takealettermsjones this made me chuckle uncle knobhead has forgotten his manners 🤣

I’ve realised I use the whole immune system not being strong enough to be the main reason for not liking kisses but come to think about it even when my baby is older I don’t want her to be kissed I don’t know what it is that I despise about it but I can’t stand it

I’d never heard of anyone objecting to a relative kissing a baby on the cheek, top of the head etc until I started using Mumsnet. I never gave it a second thought when a relative or close friend gave my baby a kiss. I find it really weird, like people who won’t let their parents come round to see their new grandchild for a couple of weeks after they’ve been born.