Hi, I have broken free and fled DA around about 7 or so months ago, just before I left, a couple of incidents occurred which made me worry for my child’s safety with their DF. He was screaming at me to record a false statement that he had never hit/hurt me so he could show people when they asked about my allegations but my son was there and the raised voices really frightened my child, I pleaded for him to stop as he was scaring him and he was crying but he said he would only stop once I recorded the video. So he was using my child’s fear to get me to record a false statement. He also had my DC on his hip while screaming at me in a corner (after I explained how frightened of him I was and felt like he could seriously hurt me at any moment) he was grabbing things out of my hand for my DC birthday and throwing them on the floor, destroying my things, screaming at me all while my son was in close proximity of this. To me, this is not a care to protect a child from DA or violence.
now I cut informal contact with him because of this, and I believed I did the right thing by asking him to please take me to court (not mediation and to not contact me informally) until now really… I stand by my reasons to stop contact but am I being fair and just by my son to allow him to grow up without a DF? I know I said go through court but if I’m honest with myself I never believed he actually would due to the pure violence and a massive charge about something serious on his criminal record. Have you ever blamed your parent for stopping contact? Will my son? My head is baffled.