10 month old possible split night

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My 10 month old (context exclusive breastmilk pump fed whole life) wakes in the night and some nights, feed to sleep and transfer fine. Other nights she will feed to sleep then wake on transfer and be awake for over an hour, how can we fix this?

sometimes we are giving in to the bad habit of then giving her more milk to feed to sleep just to get her to sleep but I don’t want to encourage this if she doesn’t actually need the extra milk

It's not a bad habit and you're not giving into it by providing her with nutrition and comfort.

She's still so young.

You don’t. You ride it out and it will stop eventually.

all 3 of mine were split night sleepers. None of them slept well.

The big one slept through from about 3.5, the middle on about 2 and the little one was about 5 but they did all get there in the end!

What is her routine like? How much day and night sleep is she getting? Split nights are a classic sign that sleep pressure is too low, so when they wake up they need a chunk of awake time to build more sleep pressure in order to finish the night. Could be worth capping a nap or bring bedtime a bit later to increase awake time before bed.

And feeding to sleep isn’t a bad habit. Needing to feed overnight is totally normal for the first year (and beyond). Especially if it’s just one wake up, she genuinely may be hungry

No advice but im there with you. My 11 month old had 3 great nights but tonight she woke at 4 and is still awake at 5 😴

Why is it a bad habit? You feed her and she sleeps? I really can’t see a problem with a baby of this age.

Once she’s 12 months you could introduce some gentle night weaning.

If you give her more milk, does that reliably put her to sleep and she then stays asleep? If so, then I'd say she's probably genuinely hungry.

Otherwise, I'd echo @toastofthetown that split nights often mean not enough 'sleep pressure'. It might be a nap went a bit long or late those days, maybe she was less active (physically and/or mentally), or even that her normal routine has just slightly more sleep (or shorter wake windows) than she actually needs, so these split nights balance that out.

Sounds like needs less day sleep and/or later bedtime. Nothing to do with milk, they are simply not tired enough for the night.