Both kids shy at nursery?

[Lolua1]

Is this normal?

Eldest is 4 (school in sept) and youngest is 2. Eldest we have some suspicions that he may be on the spectrum, hes on the pathway for assessment and is under speech and language and has appointments as he cant make some speech sounds.

So Eldest has always been a bit more shy. Very confident with us his family and loud his usual self! But yes at pre school kind of withdrawn. I'm worried the kids cant always understand him or one time someone said something about his speech and its knocked his confidence? As he attended this nursery since I returned to work after maternity leave! So its familiar but the lots of shyness only came in last September really

Today I was picking both up and youngest key worker said ah she really comes out of her shell when you pick her up

And I was like really? Nd asked some questions and key worker said she's quiet but the toddler room is big and has got some older kids about to move to pre school, so after this she'll be an older one and may feel more confident

My youngest is probably my more confident child out and about will go to kids in playgrounds etc let them play with her, DS avoids this.

But is it normal both are shy at nursery? Xx

They are both individuals.
Perfectly normal for any child to be a bit more reserved, just as it is normal for a child to be loud and confident, or normal for a child to be clingy. All children are individual, but there is nothing surprising about siblings being quite similar either.
All teachers and early years practitioners will tell you they sometimes teach a younger sibling and can't get over how different they are, but it is more likely they will see personality traits that they saw in the older sibling.

As an adult I’m way more confident at home with family. On my own surrounded by people I don’t really know I’d be very shy. I’d think most people would be the same. We all get more confident the more we trust people and get comfortable.

Thanks all yep completely agree im more confident at home etc!

I worried it was my fault they're both presenting as shy there? I mean I'm not too overly confident but yeah I just worried was I not helping their confidence enough

However my youngest is out of the 2 more confident, I do notice when she notices older brother go shy she does too. So maybe her confidence will grow in time