Anxiety a year after having a baby

[Ros2023]

So my baby is now almost 14 months old and I have so much anxiety when I have put her to bed. I don’t know if it’s because she wakes up crying most nights after half an hour so I just wait for that so I feel anxious? But even after she has woken up and I’ve settled her down I cannot relax. I am so on edge and every sound I hear I think it’s her crying or waking up. I end up just going to bed when she’s gone to bed because it’s just easier to sleep (if I manage to get much sleep haha) but that means me and my husband are not spending much time just the 2 of us because I end up just going to bed.
does anyone else feel the same way I do?
I know this will probably pass the older she gets but I can’t seem to snap out of it!

I think this level of anxiety is unhealthy. Have you sought help with it? What exactly do you feel anxious about? Is it her waking up and crying? Is it because you're worried you won't get enough sleep? Can your husband take over the evening wakings and you do the night waking?

Where is she sleeping @Ros2023? Is she in her own room and do you have a baby monitor?

I had a shit sleeper and both me and DH felt the same. Other people who just put their baby to bed and the baby sleeps all night/at least until 2am won't get it. We were so on edge. Sometimes he woke after 20 minutes, other after an hour, others after 2/3 hours, or after 45 minutes. We would put Netflix on and it was 50/50 whether we could watch an episode of something. It was so gut wrenching when we'd JUST sat down to eat after a hard day at work + parenting/ bedtime, and DS would scream.

Happy to report he's 2 and he sleeps now. The anxiety has all gone away.

He is not getting a siblings any time soon as I'm not going through that shit again.

I’m sorry you had to go through it too but also sort of glad that it’s not just me!!
me and my partner feel exactly the same. She could wake up any time so I just wait for it. I think it’s just a case of I cannot settle because of it and then I then have to go and settle her if she wakes up crying. I know we will get there but it’s hard going isn’t it.
I’m glad your little one sleeps better now. I’m looking forward to the day my daughter does!
I don’t feel this anxious in the daytime it’s mainly night xxx