Newborn nights, how do they look?!

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DC2 was born 9w ago (DC1 is 2y4m) and I’m really struggling with the sleep deprivation, as well as everything else that goes with the new chaos of having 2 little ones.
DC1 was tricky and sleep was awful so I’d hoped for better luck this time.. but didn’t get it!

Currently BFing with x1 bottle of EBM/Formula in the evening for my husband to give so I can get a 2-3h sleep stretch.
Then he gives baby to me, he wakes every 1.5-2h or so.

The next to me crib is pretty redundant as putting baby down has failed pretty much every time, I’ve waited until he’s in a deeper sleep (15-20mins or so) done a ninja transfer, only for him to wake completely 15-20mins later.
He is mostly on my chest lying on a Bf pillow, and I’m propped up with pillows so sleeping upright.. We can’t seem to master side lying cosleeping, he doesn’t settle, so I’ve given up but will keep trying.
He seems to get very gassy after a feed but manages to fall asleep, then will seem uncomfortable/move around.. sometimes I do burp him but it rouses him so I dread doing it. Also dread getting up for nappy changes for the same reason as it has taken up to 1h to resettle back to sleep.

How do you master getting baby in their own sleep space?
How do your newborn nights look?
Do you have any tips?/ general survival advice!

thanks so much in advance x

Definitely need to be burping after every feed, it’s probably the gas waking him

Burping is a myth. It doesn't help and just makes the baby more likely to be sick. Babies are noisy and wriggly. It could be infant dyschezia but that's also totally normal.

My first newborn used to wake every 2hrs, breastfeed, then go back into his next to me. My current newborn wakes the second her back touches the next to me so she sleeps in my bed. I sleep in the "cuddle curl" position and I'm so tired it really doesn't matter that it's not totally comfortable and I pass out! She also wakes every 2hrs or so and can take a while to get back to sleep as she'll feed, poo, have a clean nappy, poo again, then want more milk.

It's totally normal and won't last forever.

Burping is definitely not a myth.. 🤣

www.nhs.uk/best-start-in-life/baby/feeding-your-baby/breastfeeding/how-to-breastfeed/burping-your-baby/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24910161/

"There was statistically no significant reduction in colic episodes between burping and non-burping study subjects during 3 months of follow-up"

"Incidence rate difference of regurgitation episodes/infant/week between burping and control group was 4.36 (95% CI: 4.04 to 4.69) and there was statistically significant increase in burping group"

Yes. It is.

Thank you all.
@CremeEggsForBreakfastdo you switch sides each time so pick baby up and put down on
the other side of the bed to feed from that side?

If I don’t burp baby he is very squirmy and seems uncomfortable and restless, even wakes a few mins after going to sleep, but burping takes ages (15-20mins) and rouses him completely so neither are great but I’d rather he wasn’t in discomfort

Comfortable babies are not noisy and wriggly while they sleep so you’ve proved yourself wrong in your first post. As the op has said, their baby is squirmy and uncomfortable if not burped, as is mine, and yours…

Can your husband do another middle of the night stretch to give you 2 hours more? Mine would just hold DD and rock her between night BFs so I could at least sleep in a comfortable position for an hour or two.

You could see if something like infacol helps with the gas. Don’t quote me on this but I think it groups the gas bubbles together so it’s a single bubble to get out so might make the burping at least easier?