What do you tell young children after fall out with other mums ?

[Totallyfrazzledmum]

Unfortunately we had a falling out between a mum “friend” a couple of months ago, would you tell a reception and year 4 about this or make up an excuse? They were fairly friendly with the other child who we now won’t be meeting up with.

I’d wait and see if they ask first. What happened?

Yes they have asked about them over the past few weeks as it’s been a few months we usually would have done something by now and in half term.

Found out about nasty comments made to others.

No, at that age, their friendships especially the 9 year old, should be fairly independent of you anyway. You can drop them off for play dates. I have other parents I don’t particularly like and don’t want to socialise with, but it wouldn’t impact my dc’s friendships. But if other mum refuses to engage or let them see each other, then you just redirect to other friendships. Ultimately, if someone is so awful that you’ve had a ‘falling out’ and she’s being nasty enough to refuse to let the kids see each other, is that really the sort of dynamic you want to expose them to? They will branch out and find new friends.

I said nothing, then child asked and I said “oh bla bla mum is very busy with work.” Never asked again, hasn’t impacted the friendship now they are old enough to play out they do. We just keep it civil polite hello in the street and that’s it.