I love my children but I don’t want them any more and they deserve better

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I’m wrung out and I think I’ve reached my limit. It’s probably been building a while.

They are 5 and 3. Both are unruly, don’t listen to me, destroy things, don’t follow basic instructions. I know that this is my fault and have tried to follow advice on parenting websites and books but it never works and they ignore it and me.

So. I’m unhappy at the moment. I feel helpless and powerless in my own life. I wish I could just ring up somewhere - say you know what I’ve tried here. Please someone take over and do this job for me because I’m incapable of it.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. This is the trenches of child rearing and it's HARD! Keep trying, 3 times doing something becomes a habit. Stay firm, reward and call out good behaviour not bad (Well done for doing..... so nicely!) Reward the good stuff. Divide and conquer. Children thrive on praise and positive attention. Keep going!

But kids also need boundaries, and to know the parent is in charge. Do you have routines and some non- negotiable rules?
OP, you are in the trenches, and parenting is hard.
Can you get help? Is there someone you trust who is also a parent who can share parenting tips?

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You are in the hardest chapter of your life right now, it’s exhausting, repetitive, feel like you’re banging your head on a wall not getting anywhere, probably wanting to scream in frustration. Kids are such hard work, but they’re your babies at the end of the day and you’ll wake up one day and look back on these days and realise everything changed over time, it gets so much easier. Once your 3 year old starts school I bet you’ll see a shift, school was a huge turning point for me. I still get resistance and NO’s and constant battles but it’s just more manageable. Try and not go down a mind set of not wanting your babies anymore, the love grows and grows, 10x more once they get less challenging.