Ds10 needs teeth removed.. advice?

[StressedMama99]

I struggled to get ds10 into a dentist for two years, his nhs dentist turned private and i couldn’t afford the fees.
every other week I have tried ringing around nhs dentists, finally got him one for this week but I am terrified they are going to say he needs a lot of teeth out. (As you can tell I have a dentist phobia)

he is type one diabetic and obviously eats a lot of sugar for lows he has 3 cavities in baby teeth that I expect need to be remoced.
Today his tooth snapped off at the root, I phoned even though he has an appointment and they didn’t seem worried as he’s not in pain and can eat fine and said baby roots normally get absorbed when the adult tooth comes through anyway and it was quite normal!

How do I get over my fear? Im half tempted to get dh to take him as it’s his day off, I know it’s normalish for children to have cavities & need a few teeth out (know a lot of children who have!)

I’m sorry you are so anxious and I hope it doesn’t transfer to your DS. However it is definitely not normal for children that age to have cavities or need teeth removed. At that age you must be talking about adult teeth. You need to supervise his dental hygiene twice a day.

Get DH to take him. If you are anxious, and stressing about it, he will pick up on that, and it could cause distress and cause issues for him going forward.

You will need to work on your dental phobia away from DS. Do you now have an nhs dentist? You would need to speak to them separately and see if they are able to offer advice regarding reducing your fears. There is advice online, but it’s coping strategies and finding a dental team you gel with-you don’t have much choice in nhs really, just grateful to get one.

I sympathise, I do hate the dentist. I’d rather have a gynaecological exam than a dental exam -and they are awful enough! I just grit my teeth and brace myself to get through it, but my DM would threaten us to behave and ‘not show her up’ by making a fuss, so I was trained to do that from an early age, sadly.

Well done for getting him an appointment, that’s a great start. Try not to get too anxious about what might be, you can’t change it now. Your dentist will give you both advice on how to improve things moving forwards - if you’re already brushing properly (1450ppm fluoride toothpaste and ideally an electric toothbrush) twice a day then there isn’t much else you can do. Avoiding fizzy drinks is important too.

No, not adult teeth. Hes ten he has a lot of baby molars.

thank you, yes he brushes really well twice a day with 1450ppm fluoride but he refuses to brush after a treating a hypo with sugar at night because its like 3/4am hes also autistic so makes it harder. He does drink only water unless its a hypo and has lucozade or orange juice. It’s my fault for not finding a nhs dentist sooner I know that

What is wrong with his dad taking him? Sounds like the most logical solution.

Nothing really, I think I am just an anxious mess I always think worse case scenario when it comes to things like this. Hopefully all goes well on Friday and if he has to have teeth out the adult ones come through promptly hes only lost 6 baby teeth so far! (i was the same though and had to have 8 teeth out when I was his age so maybe that’s where the fear comes from lol.)