Would you stop son speaking to a sweary friend?

[Feralfriend]

Just looking for another point of view on what would you do? My son is 10 and doesn't have many friends, never been to anyone's house .. etc however has a couple of friends he speaks to on the phone and plays games with.

However, his favourite friend, i have honestly never heard so much swearing, he is always saying the eff word, I hear screaming and shouting and swearing in the background from all the kids there. I get some families are just sweary and it's not that big a deal but I honestly just don't know what to do .. at the moment im telling my son to cut the call. Would you cut their phone contact over this permanently?

No.
All kids swear. I learned this from my own very well behaved kid more than 25 years ago.
Sad but true.
My advice then and now remains the same. He needs to learn time and place. What's ok for your pals isn't ok for society at large.
Keep it for the playground and if a teacher overhears you and you get punished, that's on you. That was my take.

Agree with this.

If he’s a good friend to your son, I wouldn’t ban them speaking. Have a conversation with your son so he knows your boundaries around swearing. It sounds like he’ll be going to secondary school soon, he’ll hear a lot more of it there.

First conversation is about how there’s a (limited) time and place for swearing. Bigger conversations are about how frequent swearing affects how people see you and can limit your options, and that frequent aggressive swearing is often a symptom of poor emotional regulation, which is the bigger problem.

Is your son talking to someone on the phone that he has never met? Have you ever met them or their parents? If this is the case well then no I wouldn’t let them be on a phone together.

My son is 11 and loves a few swear words but he has started to keep away from kids who use really horrible language all the time now.

That's what I said the other day to my nine year old grandson when he and grandpa got back from a bike ride the other day. He walked in the front door saying loudly "It's ducking hot out there" my cleaner and I in the kitchen just looked at each other.

I said we don't use that word here. He did apologise. I know they use it in the playground. Playing online when they think you're not listening . But I don't encourage it.