Year 7 daughter overwhelmed at school despite support and adjustments

[Tinkerin]

My daughter is in yr 7 started well but massively burnt out by around week 2 of term 2….

Since then she’s been getting gradually even more overwhelmed and anxious and exhausted.

Shes not being bullied and she’s is a fairly small school but she says the classes and corridors make her feel that she has to be alert for danger all the time and she’s fine the pressure of all the work overwhelming. Shes not yet found a best friend or small social group so she feels on the edge of groups.

She is having maximum support at school. Transition pass, 5 min to leave the classroom if overwhelmed, can wear PE kit , soft start…

But none of this seems to be working.

She says she needs someone to talk to at school each day but often that can’t be arranged. And even then , I don’t know if that would solve the issue.

Before half term I just couldn’t bare the anguish any more so she had Friday off but now is crying about going back on Monday.

She is getting assessed for adhd / autism next month but until then we can’t be sure of the underlying issues…

Any help / advice would be much appreciated

Thanks 🙏

My dd was starting to struggle at that point and that’s when the pandemic kicked in. She was obviously home from March to September and that worked well for her (less so my other 2dc). It gave her a chance to grow up at her own pace as many were trying to grow up too fast for her. By September starting year 8 she was so much happier in her own self. I would do a count down that it’s 6 more Mondays and that’s it. Reassurance is key and listening - what was good today (find one thing no matter how small) and what was tricky. This encourages her to build perspective and to talk, but not all negatives. Just take things a day at a time.