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Next steps with potty training 4YO DD when out

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DearDog96 · 18/05/2026 21:52

Reposted from Potty Training thread to get some more traction

Hi everyone,
posted about a month ago about my just turned 4 year old who I was struggling to train. After trying consistently since then we’ve managed to get her to remain dry at home. She’s still struggling to notice when she needs a wee though and so out and about is a struggle since sometimes a toilet isn’t close enough! Because of this, DH and I have decided to put her in pull ups, while still reminding her that she should be using the toilet all the time. It seems to be working and besides the odd accident she’s doing well. The trouble is I don’t know where to go from here. I know I can’t keep her in pull ups forever, but also she can’t keep having accidents in the car or when out the house! Any advice would be much appreciated x

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Watercooler · 20/05/2026 05:43

I remember at this age we did put a puppy pad on the car seat just in case at this point.

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DearDog96 · 20/05/2026 10:18

Watercooler · 20/05/2026 05:43

I remember at this age we did put a puppy pad on the car seat just in case at this point.

That’s a great idea, thank you!

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DearDog96 · 20/05/2026 10:19

pincklop · 20/05/2026 03:06

It’s taking the next step. Will always have accidents but shes capable of not needing a nappy. If she’s still happy to wee in a nappy as it’s convenient then why would she try and use the toilet like other kids her age.

You make a good point. I don’t think she’s bothered at all by being in a wet pull up - she’s still in nappies overnight so is no stranger to the feeling and I guess pull ups / nappy pants must be too absorbent for her to feel the consequences of what she’s done

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DearDog96 · 20/05/2026 10:20

mathanxiety · 20/05/2026 02:46

Throw out the pull-ups.

Buy absorbent underwear.

Have her pee before you leave to go anywhere.

Try to plan your outings and limit drinks in the hour before you leave.

It's inconvenient to end up with a pee soaked carseat and wet clothes, but you have to focus on your end goal here, and the cleaning really is only an inconvenience.

You have to let your daughter experience the wet clothes too. It's not mean to allow her to feel uncomfortable.

Yeah I think I need to get that in my head - it’s going to be rough with lots of cleanups for a while but the end goal is near. And like you said, her being uncomfortable is really the only way she’ll learn

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