A bit lost

[Claribelle21]

Can anyone tell me how I can be a mum and myself at the same time? My kids are 12 and 9 and awesome but I’m 47 and perimenopausal and life is busy and chaotic. My relationship with my husband is at best functional. I’m an emotive human…really loving but the downside of that is not weathering life’s chaos so well. I don’t like them seeing me down. This evening they saw me cry and they got upset. I now feel like a complete failure for letting them see me like that but I can’t hide who I am.

Just sending a virtual hug. I have felt this way often. I’m sure you’re doing a brilliant job. We are only human and modern life is very intense & think we put high expectations o ourselves these days. It’s human to feel overwhelmed. Cut yourself some slack and don’t feel too bad for having a little cry. Your kids will learn that even grown ups find moments tough and work their way through it. I think even asking them to help you carve out A little bit of time in your day just for you might help.