Feeling isolated with a baby and looking for local mum friends

[pinkdollyworld]

So, this is slightly embarrassing but I’m not sure what to do. I’m always trying to find classes/baby things to do in Leeds but their either fairly costly or quiet far away from where I am. I don’t have any friends who have babies & it’s quite lonely on my own. Every day feels like Groundhog Day & I have no one to really talk to about or relate to my situation. It would be good to meet some mums & feel like I’m getting some kind of myself back again!

Are there any local community Facebook pages you could post on?

If it helps you to know, I think lots of us feel like that when we lose/change identity by becoming mothers.

I felt exactly the same as you when I had my first baby. I had just moved country, and didn't understand the language yet or know anyone apart from my husband and his family /friends. I gradually got a circle of mum friends once my baby became a toddler and I started hanging around playgrounds a lot... It felt like dating all over again, trying to chat to other mums, asking for their phone number and inviting them to coffee!
When we finally got to nursery and school stages it got a lot easier, because you see the same crowd of parents every day, year after year and you gradually get bonded with some of them.

The early days were really tough though!! But... it does pass, and improve. Just keep putting yourself out there. Good luck.

I think you have to be very pro-active at making the first move and inviting other mums for a coffee or something casual initially.
I did this when my kids started at school nursery and made a nice group of friends/acquaintances.

I’ve had a look yes! I’ve managed to find one for tomorrow morning which is good. Thank you! Your words made me cry! As awful as it is, it makes you feel better when people can relate. Even though it’s not nice knowing other people feel like this, you feel heard by other mums. I needed to hear what you said so thank you.

@pinkdollyworld you absolutely aren't alone.

You will find your others, and when you do, your mum friends may be some of the closest ones you'll have (there is so much to bond over, and you need other women like never before!!)

Hope you 've had a good day today and even if you haven't, don't despair. Better days are coming and it's all worth it in the long run. Promise. Xx