Sleep training ??? Help

[Reesy89]

Hi, I have a nearly 16 month old. He usually falls asleep on me or my partner before his nap and night time then we put him down in hit cot around 19:30, he wakes around 22:00 ish crying to come into bed with us. This has usually worked and hasn’t been a problem. But the last week has been pure hell getting him down, taking us hours to get him to sleep day or night. We haven’t ever trained him to sleep on his own, he’s always been a bit wild and too awake. We have tried to leave him in hit cot but he jumps around for hours then gets upset. I’m at my wits end although this is all my fault. Any suggestions? Will Ferber method work? Please help 🙏🏼

We did it, 2 nights of hell then 2/3 of much less difficulty and they slept through. Now end of primary. I get people not liking it but in return for 2 bad nights they sleep well and we sleep well which has improved their childhood no end.

I am considering it at some point with my 2 year old as she is so clingy to me and sleep is horrendous.

Ferber method does usually work in around 3 nights but you have to be prepared for a lot of crying especially on night 1. If you’ve tried before to leave him in his cot but ultimately given in because he’s jumped around then become upset then I’d have a really good think about whether you think you can stick to it because for any sleep training method to work you have to be consistent. Otherwise it’s just confusing, unfair and a waste of time. But if you’re prepared to do it, it will be the quickest way to solve his sleep. If not maybe look at gradual retreat for a gentler method.

Also, what’s the nap schedule? At 16 months you’d want to be looking at 1.5-2 hours of daytime sleep and a wake window of 4-5 hours before bed.

I cannot thank this method enough. My son now gets himself to sleep and sleeps through the night. First two nights weren’t easy but he’s absolutely smashing it now. Thanks all :)