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Toddler distressed at grandparents since starting nursery, anyone experienced this?

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ChelRW · 12/05/2026 15:31

Hi! Looking for any help and advice please. My 2 year old recently started nursery. She’s in her third full week. She only goes for 2.5 hours each morning and it has been an adjustment for her with lots of crying at drop off which has gotten better the last few days. We were expecting that and can handle that. What we weren’t expecting was that since starting nursery she now won’t go to stay with her grandparents. She gets very distressed if they pick her up and take her home and I’m not there. She is just as upset if I’m the one to pick her up and take her there. Even if I stay at my parents with her she is on edge and crying if I even go close to the front door.

She’s always had a great relationship with both sets of grand parents and has always gone to them at least one day a week, but multiple days when I am in work as I usually work full time. I’m currently on maternity leave so have been home with her since before she started nursery. Obviously once I do go back to work they are my childcare so I really want her to be happy going there again for that reason, but mostly just because she is so loved and she has always loved going there previously. Normally she is quite literally shutting the door on my face and telling me ‘bye bye’. It’s starting to upset us all that she is so unhappy going there suddenly since nursery.

She seems to be adjusting to nursery slowly now but doesn’t seem to be adjusting to grandparents again. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

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mindutopia · 12/05/2026 16:33

It’s still very new. It took mine about 3 months to settle in a nursery. My guess is grandparents means you leaving and going, coupled with her being tired. Why not go and just spend time at grandparents with her? If you need to get something from the car, take her with you. She needs to build up her sense of security with her people again as everything has been a bit upside down the past few weeks. Also have them come spend time with her at your house.

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