Advice for persistent bedwetting - wearing me down with both DC and wondering what I’m doing wrong.

[LadyoftheLavaLamp]

Both my 7 and 5 year old still wee a lot at night. 7 year old has spells of being dry but then it will start again. 5 year old been soaked every night and never been dry. They both wear the Huggies night time pants, which are struggling with the quantities now they are getting bigger.

I had an appointment with the doctor for 7 year old a few months ago, followed the advice and also stopped taking DC to the toilet before we go to bed. Not made a jot of difference. Then tried the alarms from the Eric website, doesn’t wake effectively and it’s always too late by the time someone gets there to take to the toilet. It’s really wearing me down and hindering confidence with things like going to sleepovers. 7 year old is definitely becoming self conscious and embarrassed.

What can I do? Help and experience to crack this is appreciated! I understand it’s a hormone thing, is putting them both on the desmopressin the only way?

Thanks @MeridaBrave , I think I’ll go back and ask for it, at least for sleepovers and things and if it works and no side effects maybe this will solve it

I remember my youngest going through this, it was relentless and had them at the Dr/Nurse. Like yours it seemed to being in such a deep sleep. I don't think you are doing anything wrong, that hormone hasn't kicked in yet!!

We did everything with my older son (bed alarms, pills, midnight waking, nothing to drink after 6pm, etc. etc. etc.) It caused him so much stress we just backed off. He wore pullups until he had to go into adult diapers. He went to camp for a week each summer and the strategic planning around it was unreal (where to hide the diapers, where to undress, how to hide the used diapers, what to do if the sheets got wet, how to handle it if a kid found out, etc.) After we gave up on everything the pediatrician said this will stop when he is 12. He said when nothing else works, the only thing left is turning 12. For whatever reason, it stopped the week of his 12th birthday and never happened again. All this to say, I feel your pain and it might not stop until he is 12. Best approach is to teach him how to strip his bed and wash his own sheets and deal with it himself. Me being involved made it more embarrassing for DS.

Placemarking here as I am in a similar situation with 6yo DS & want to come back and read later

No help I'm afraid but my youngest was 11 before he was dry at night. We tried everything but nothing worked but it just came down to time. One day, he woke up dry. And has been dry ever since.

Mine got medication ahead of them attending camp in P7. Worked well. Needed double dose though. DD2 is still on the tablets after about 8 months.
Absolutely nothing else worked.

DD slept so deeply that the alarm didn't wake her. It was so loud it was painful to get close enough to try and wake her, yet still she carried on sleeping!