Every time I ask my mum to look after her my children (which is VERY rarely) she avoids the question. She always slags my brother off to me whenever he asks her to look after their children (again very rare)
She’s really good with my children whist I’m there but it’s like she doesn’t want to look after them and doesn’t make the effort to come to my house etc, it’s all one sided and she wouldn’t see them if I didn’t go to hers.
However, my partners parents want to come watch them play football and swimming etc, will offer to look after them. Again, my friends parents always offer to look after and take their children out. I can’t help but feel jealous of that bond. I genuinely feel like I’m forcing them to be in their grandchildren’s life and it shouldn’t be like that.
I just feel like I should stop asking my parents but I don’t understand why they wouldn’t want to make the effort with their grandchildren I find it bizarre.
It’s just not how I’d see myself as a grandparent. I’ve asked her to have the children on Sunday for a few hours but I had to ask 3 times because she just avoids the question. She asks me why etc and then never says yes or no. It’s really frustrating and I don’t even know why I bother asking. Anyway, she said yes after I asked her for the third time and told her I don’t like asking her because she never replies to me. Now I feel like I want to say something to address it.