Why cant I be consistant? I know what i should be doing, I start off with good intentions but I can never follow through and the kids know it.
I have three kids boy 15 twin girls 11. I split up woth their dad two years ago and I feel like they've just gone down hill ever since. They are rude, intolerant of each other and everyone else, unhelpful. They go to school and have friends, its just at my house they are awful. I dont know what they are like at their dad's. We share them almost 50/50 but I dont speak to him.
I dont always see the bad behaviour, if I do i regularly itolerste it and then when something major happens I find it very difficult to do anything about it. I put it down to the fact that I dont know what to do about it but thats not true as I know that there needs to be consequences and punishments, that are consistant and proportionate. I just dont know what they are and when I do ban then off their phones I am inconsistent about why, how long, what for. Ive read the theraputic parenting books, ive had therapy and yet I still feel like I have no clue what I am doing and the kids are spiralling.