When is it reasonable to move a child away from her dad?

[AmberBee34]

When is it okay to move a child away from their Dad ? I have a 2.5 year old and it looks like the relationship with DH may becoming to an end. For various reasons too complicated to go into, it’s not likely he would have housing appropriate for a shared parenting, and for other complicated reasons I wouldn’t want that until she has more agency and can communicate better. Hes mostly a good dad (there are some areas of concern but no neglect or abuse) and my child is very attached. The issue though is that aside from him I have no real support system, and it’s important to me to have that if I’m going to be mostly parenting alone. Has anyone been in this situation ? If I moved to my support, it would be a plane trip away. Before anyone suggests it, I think it’s unlikely DH would stop me.

If the child is very attached to her father that’s a very difficult situation. How do you know he wouldn’t stop you? You would be depriving the child of a relationship with their father which is very wrong but I appreciate that you don’t have a support system at the moment.

Ok, so, you need to do everything from the stand point of what is in the best interests of the child. I divorced when my ds was 2 (now 24 so appreciate that some things have changed but the underlying principles are the same)
If he chose to go the court route then you'd be expected to make your DD available for contact, I believe now they look at a starting point of 50/50 contact and adjust from there
He really only has to be a 'good enough' parent. If his living accomodation is less than ideal, you'd still be expected to make her available for daytimes.

What would you do to committing to keep the solid relationship? How often would you be able to have visits and other type of contact etc. other than support for you, what benefits would moving away bring the child?