Not diagnosed (yet) but to me it’s a nailed-on certainty that DD age 14 is ND. Kicking myself really that we didn’t put 2 and 2 together at a younger age as she has SO MANY traits that I only now know apply to girls. I was ignorantly thinking that as she didn’t fit what I thought of as ‘classic’ ASD traits that she couldn’t possibly be ND.
teen years seem to be where it’s all going pear shaped. School is very difficult for her (they are being v supportive) as though she has friends and doing great academically she is struggling with overwhelm and the busy-ness, noise, social-ness of it all.
she’s always been extremely rigid and stubborn but obviously more so now she’s a teenager. Could argue hind legs off a donkey and then some. I’m struggling with this aspect (despite placing as few demands on her as I possibly can) and struggling with all the issues around her anxieties and school attendance. She is going in (mostly) but it is HARD and relentless and I am her place to offload about it all.
We are pursuing (private) diagnosis.
In the meantime, what books and resources might help me (so I can help her)? I’ve looked at a lot online (autistic girls related) but was hoping there might be a longer-form book or something that might help.
Any recommendations??
She is high-masking if that is how to describe it? Many people would be ASTONISHED that we (and pastoral staff at school) think she is ND. Whereas I am astonished it took us so long to work it out, going all the way back to early years it is all right there…