Nearly three and still not asking for the potty independently

[Mummy2925]

Hello

i need some help / advice
i started potty training my lo at around 28months old, the 3 days method , no pants/trousers ect , it went well only fast forward 7 months and she still will not ask to go herself , she has to be told to sit on the potty every 1/2 hours , I’ve tried asking if she needs to go or has a feeling but she’ll say no. I have been told I started too young but she’s almost 3 I don’t think it’s too young ??

please advise me 😫

My DS wasn't ready to potty train until 3.5 years (we tried on and off from 2 years) - before then we tried training had to take him every half hour and when asked if had feeling needed to go he said no. Once ready he was taking himself to potty without prompt within a week for wees and poos.

Just to clarify, if you don’t take her will she have an accident? Or have you not tried because you’re constantly prompting?

If she goes on the potty don’t give up but every half hour is too often. With mine we went before we went out, when we got back, first thing in the morning and last thing at night and roughly 45 mins after eating/drinking, this last one might be slightly different for your child.

All kids are different, even siblings. Some catch on straight away, some take longer. Relax and don’t show anxiety, she will get there, she’s still very young.

Is that she needs to be told every 30 mins or every one or two hours?

honestly, most kids need to be reminded to go or in a toileting routine until much older. There’s a reason reception classes do a toilet trip before each break and lunchtime.

If you're making her sit on the potty that frequently of course she won't learn, her bladder isn't getting full enough to trigger an urge.

Yes you started far too early, she didn't have the cognitive tools to understand what was going on at 28 months and now there's months of "relying on mum to tell me it's time to go" to unlearn. Now you need to do a week of pants-off playing in the house in which she learns properly what it feels like when her bladder is full, and what to do when she gets that feeling, without relying on you to tell her.

Yes , if I don’t remind her she’ll have an accident.

Sorry I meant 1 to 2 hours not half a hour

what is the correct age to train ? I was lead to believe it was to start before 30months ? This is my first time Potty training, I thought she was ready as she was keeping the pull ups dry prior to going Naples’s , she’s also been night dry since 25ish months

28 months is a totally fine age to train, of course they have the skills!

I think it’s very normal to still need some prompting. They get so distracted they can often leave it until the last second.

I wouldn’t worry about reminding. I finally got my youngest potty trained at 3.5 years and was still reminding them when they started school at 4. If I had waited until they were ready they would have been a starting school in nappies child. Some kids just don’t get it in time.

2 isn’t far too early at all.

In my experience, most children need prompting for a long time! My youngest is 5 and occasionally I still need to tell him to go to the toilet because he clearly needs to go, but doesn't want to interrupt what he's doing. The younger they are, the more often they will need to be reminded. It doesn't mean you started toilet training too early, it's because some children take longer to learn than the parenting books tell us.

It's fine, I'd stop prompting her and just let her have accidents and keep some floor/carpet/fabric cleaner handy so cleaning up isn't a stress. Reward her for taking herself to the potty/toilet with a chocolate button. Eventually she'll get bored of having wet pants and learn to read her body's cues.