Advice for helping a 4 week old settle in cot

[Liyaach]

Looking for some help and advice please with my newborn baby. She’s almost 4 weeks old, for the first week she slept okay in the snuzpod / purflo and would do 2 hour naps and stints overnight. Since then however she won’t go to sleep in the day unless it’s in the sling carrier and won’t sleep at night unless she’s lying on my chest or my husbands. I’m terrified of SIDs / rolling over and squashing her so I’m desperate to get out of this habit but nothing works. I can wait for ages to get her in a deep sleep (even an hour!) but she always wakes up about 2 minutes after she’s been moved into the cot. I’ve tried warming it, holding mY hand on her, feeding again and then resettling etc.

just looking for some help and advice on how to establish proper cot sleeping. I’m exhausted but also just scared of something happening to her.

Thanks x

Hi OP, have you tried things like white noise, swaddling & wearing the bed sheet in your bra for a few hours before popping it on so it smells like you? Those were the top tips I was given when I was trying to get my first baby in there and do work for some babies.

It is totally normal for a 4 week old to want to be on you though, look up the fourth trimester for more info x

Swaddle+ dummy, or a sleeping bag once they're big enough.

Are you breastfeeding?
Look up safe co sleeping guidelines and how to feed laying down?
My DD never slept in her cot, she slept in bed with me at night and in a lay flat pushchair or carrier for naps.

Thanks for your replies. Yes I’m breastfeeding and have done the lying down position but I just don’t think co sleeping is for me - it makes me feel really uneasy, I’m too scared I’ll roll over and squash her!
I’ve got white noise blasting and swaddling. I put so much effort into a nap in her cot this morning and she lasted 21 minutes! :-/

Cot might be too big, are you not using a moseys basket for day time naps and next to me for night time sleep?

Yes I have a snuzpod for her sleep. Then I have a purflo for day time sleep - but today I really tried with the cot for a day time nap as I wanted to get her used to it

I am afraid at this stage there isn’t much you can do to change her. As you know, she is just displaying the biological norm. Cots are alien to her. We would all rather be snuggled up to our mums where we can hear their heart beats which we are familiar with.
What did I do? Reframed my thinking and expectations. I thinking ignoring the clock helps - I got anxious if it got to 11/12 and there was no chance of bed for me. I went with it dozing here and there. It does change your sleep pattern. The other thing is to tag team with someone else in shifts so you can get a chunk of sleep. This worked well for me. It is really hard.