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Teenagers and snapchat

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AmusedBird · 29/04/2026 11:48

Found out my son (12) has sent pics of his privates through snapchat to 2 girls (13) he thought were his friends 😳 he screenshot the messages they sent him before begging to send pics of his parts as they really liked him. Have been blackmailing him for a couple of months since. Obvious now it was all a joke, on his behalf. Had kids at my door telling me his photo is now going round. I've had stern words about how dangerous it is and taken his phone (not as punishment as such but if he can't be trusted with a newer phone he will have a simple one just to make calls). Not sure where to go from here. It might be worth noting he has a diagnosis of autism but is in mainstream school with a 1:1. They aren't all in the same school but all have mutual friends as we live on the same street and go together to the local park across the road. I'm concerned about this effecting his school life as he struggles already with friendships. I'm at a loss of what to do. She's still got the image and of course I don't want it to keep going round further. I'm aware kids move on to the next thing fast but right now this feels like the end of the world for my son right now...

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Shallotsaresmallonions · 29/04/2026 11:50

Report to the school and the police. It's child pornography and they will be able to speak to those involved.

BillieWiper · 29/04/2026 12:07

It's classed as making CSA images, each and every kid who's got that pic. Even if they didn't pass it on.

You need to speak to school and police. And restrict the shit out of your kid's phone.

Decacaffeinatednow · 29/04/2026 12:13

Too late for your 12 year old now @AmusedBird but this is one the reasons that children shouldn't have smartphones.

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Tillow4ever · 29/04/2026 12:32

You need to report this to the police (and school). It is an incredibly serious crime that has been committed, and those images all need recovering and pulling from anywhere they might be. All the children involved need to be made aware of just how dangerous and illegal this is. Your son needs support because this could be really damaging for him. Those responsible need an appropriate punishment.

It won’t go by away by itself. Please report this today. And have a really, really good talk with your son (and any other children if you have them) about the dangers of sending these images and what the law is.

AmusedBird · 29/04/2026 16:53

Do I just report it to my child's school and they will liase with the other schools or is that up to the police? The parents are unapproachable, we've had dealings in the past and it's just a no go but I don't think this is for parents to sort out. I'm not here to be my sons friend so there won't be a phone for a while, if and when he has his iPhone back it won't have snapchat on! I do check his phone everyday anyway but these messages dissappear, and if you'd seen his group chats he only ever replies with a thumbs up or down emoji so I was naive to think snapchat wouldn't be an issue. We've had a chat about this and it's been drummed into in so many times to not send, say or do anything stupid online but these girls he's known since they were all around 5/6 years old so he believed there was a level of trust already there. He done something stupid which I hope will make him learn his lesson now rather than later, he's also paying the consequences for his own actions

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coulditbeme2323 · 29/04/2026 16:54

Why does a 12 year old have a smart phone?

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