Has anyone's partner chosen a new woman over his children?

[Ontheball1976]

my partner of 26 years left me & his 5 children to move in with his affair women 5 months ago
has anyone else had a man leave and opening say he chooses the new women over his children , do they regret it after a while ??
his 3 eldest have already broke all contact and I worry he’s left it to long to ever build bridges !
the two youngest 10 & 13 continually get let down by him , he goes weeks without texting it’s like he’s a completely different dad , he used to worshipped his kids

Its a very common thing that happens in this situation, mostly down to the new partner wanting all attention

Yes, although I think his decision was also influenced by realising that maintenance plus new woman was too expensive, so he hasn't paid maintenance, or any had contact with his children in years. He has for all intents and purposes disappeared and blocked his own (young at the time) children from contacting him.
Mine too was the used to worship his kids type. Probably has new ones now.

My brother in law left my sister for a woman 20 years younger than him. Their children are all in their 20’s and took it very badly. He left overnight and she was someone who worked for them. They have barely seen him in two years. It’s been very painful. My sister has met someone new and is thriving. I can’t comment on him - he walked away and seems not to care about any of them. I’m so sorry OP x

When ex and I split he moved on immediately (or possibly overlapped) and the kids had new ‘brothers’ but he still had kids 3 nights a week, they split he met his second wife within a few months they lived near us and he made much more effort in terms of school events but had them eow and a week night. . But his third wife who lived an hour away was the one he dropped the kids for. Within a few months he was down to one night a month then even tgat stopped. Kids are adults now and see him a few times a year.

Happens all the time men and women both put new partners over their children

My ex did this. Married 23 years. He left to be with OW and cut contact with his children. He also never took anything from our life together, including photos of his children [ pre digital photos ].
They are all adults now and he only has contact with one of the children. He hasn't met any of his grandchildren. His loss.

No, but my mum chose her partner over me and my brother when we were teens and I still struggle with that.

Mostly due to the man/daddy.

Stop blaming women for men's failings and decisions. If he doesn't see his kids that's on him, no one else.

My husband left in lockdown to move in with his affair partner. He didn’t see the children for six weeks at all and since has seen them for approx 3 hours a week (rarely all together & often cancels/brings them home early).

He makes token efforts but it’s very clear where his choices lie

Yes it's very, very common with second relationships and not just affair partners. When my first DH and I divorced he would see our son at weekends but once he remarried and had 2 more kids, he dropped my son like a stone. Haven't seen or heard from him for years. I think it's partly walking away from responsibility (obviously) but also erasing the past. Women rarely erase their children, even if they were the product of an awful marriage, but men are more than capable of it.