5 year old pamper party

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AIBU?
My daughter is in reception and she just got an invite to a pamper birthday party. I've had a look at the website and the party includes options like light make up, hair curling, manicure etc. I haven't got a big issue with her playing with make up as at this age it's just pretend play, but I feel that 5 is too young for someone to be telling them how pretty they look just because they've got glitter on. And I definitely don't want anyone curling her hair!
Am I being unreasonable to consider planning a family day out on that day so she still has a good time without attending the party?

Definitely too young. They should be running around!!

I would be declining that one for sure, terrible way to set expectations for young girls. Also my DD tried makeup at a friend's house once and ended up with a huge red rash around her mouth due to the lipstick

Gawd that’s awful at age 5. I’d try and avoid that family entirely.

I think if it were called a princess party and they were given a tiara and a glitter tattoo it would be considered fine. I guess it's the make up and hair curling which isn't really age appropriate. I think if in general you model realistic body image attitudes and praise her for actual achievements or positive character traits rather than just for
'being a pretty girl' then as a one off this party is unlikely to do any real harm. I curled the ends of my dd's hair when she was a bridesmaid at a similar age and it didn't fall out.

I declined that kind of invite for my DD around the same age. I explained why though.

I appeared to be out of step with the other Mums on that one thought.

How close friends are they? I don't think I'd be that keen either, especially not on the hair curling! I can't imagine many 4-5 year olds sitting still long enough anyway (and quite rightly so!) The pamper party place near me does party games with a bit of hair glitter and temporary tattoos/face paint for that age range and I think they do face masks and manicures for slightly older kids so slightly more age appropriate. If it was her best friend, I'd perhaps enquire about what exactly is on offer, an acquaintance just decline and plan something else!

I wouldn't organise this kind of party myself, but if my DD was invited to one I'd let her go. Tell the mum you don't want her hair curled if you like.

We’ve been to one recently with DD2 who is in school nursery, so it was for a 4th birthday.
the girls had their nails painted, a foot spa, their hair done (plaits, space buns with gel and glitter) and had a plastic champagne flute with pink lemonade in it.
they then went upstairs for “afternoon tea” and a princess disco.

They chose the hairstyle they wanted (and if they wanted glitter) - no heated appliances were used and they also chose the colour of nail varnish (DD chose dark purple and teal)

could you not just say “not to use heated appliances on her hair” but let her have fun with her friends, if that’s what she would like to do?

Seems a bit risky to be using a curling iron on a bunch of overexcited 4/5 year olds. I’d definitely say no to that. But I would still let her go have fun with friends if she wants to go, even if the theme is proper cringy.

Thank you for your views. I'm hoping it will just be glitter tattoos and such like others have mentioned. My daughter said they're not very close so I might give her the option of the party (I'm not sure she'll be into it anyway as she has complained about parties where there isn't free play) or a family day out instead.

YANBU.
What kind of crazy person would throw such a party for a 5 year old?! We’d definitely be busy that day, unfortunately.