On the outskirts of friendship groups

[Chipsfordinner]

feeling a bit lonely.

I seem to be on the edge of all of friendship groups or the groups I thought were friends (ie baby friends) have all moved on since kids have grown up, which happens.

I live in a small village that my husband grew up in.

My closest friend here seems to have made a close knit group with the wives and partners of her husbands friends.

My husband keeps in touch with his friends but the dynamic is different, he tends to meet with the boys and although I’ve met with the girls I’m not really part of the group. We all work and then all our kids are different ages. And i suggested meet ups or nights out but never been taken up on it.

Im good for lifts and play dates but it never goes further then that.

I’ve joined a fitness class but it’s early morning and no cafe or anything so although you chat we all have to run off to get to work.

I just miss that closeness of a female group and friends I guess and I don’t know how to find it.

not really sure what answers I’m looking for but just needed to get it out.

What about work, if the village environment is pretty barren, friendship-wise?

It’s hard when you’re looking for new friends. I think maybe local interest groups or meditation or art classes?

Is there a fitness class that you fancy trying in the evening? If you chat to a couple of people in the morning one (I agree- morning classes have a completely different vibe) then could you say you saw there was a 7pm <insert class> and see if they fancied trying it with you? it might be a bit different but mine’s a gym and is friendly and quite sociable.

I also met one of my now closest friends when I joined a choir and got sat next to someone else who started on the same night. We bonded as we were both nervous.

Thank you for your kind replies.

I work in a school office and yes it’s busy but there’s literally no time to start a proper conversation. Lunch I take after most of the staff so I can cover the office.
I like the job and we do have nights out but not many.

my evenings are tricky. My kids do a lot of sport and that’s moved from sideline conversations to just dropping off. My husband works long hours so trying to get out to an activity can be hard but I will talk to him to see what we can make work.

I think a more sociable hobby is needed.

Find a Book Club?