Am I being over sensitive?

[Bengalimumof4]

DD7 really struggling at school with making friends. She’s a lovely friendly confident child and have a very open relationship with parents. We know exactly when she’s lying or telling the truth.shes been friends with these 2 girls since nursery. She was friends with a girl first and they were the best of friends untill 2nd friend joined the class and became a bit over powering and caused a drift in DD AND F1. Anyway 3 years on, she’s fixed on these two friendship and I have some history with F2s mum from when ours sons were in the Same class. I’m a nice person. Whenever F2s mum wanted DD for a playdate I always said yes. Even at times when she was clearly using me for a lift in guise of a play date. She didn’t invite my DD to her birthday party even though I assumed they were good friends. Anyway now it seems like this girl is border line bullying my child to the point she’s wetting the bed and waking in the night upset coz she has no friends. I don’t know what to do.

You talk to the school….

As a mum you care.
I would address it with youre daughters teacher on the quiet.
Mention the behaviour etc.
It is normal and quite often hard as they naviagate friendships but a 3rd person group will be cause for push pull in the group.
Not being invited to a party perhaps the budget, style or friends was limited.
Thry do move away from each other and encourage her to find others & perhaps invite someone else around for a playdate.
Sensitive or not guide her and remove herself if it is becoming scatty or bullying.
It is hard. We had a child show up who ran to our house because she was lonely..the parents hated I was friends with my neighbour, so would stop playdates, it was so mental to pull the child into there issues.

The party situation was apparently due to the child not wanting to invite my DD but they play together every day. I mentioned it to the mum day before party as my DD was confused why she wasn’t invited. Mum told me she was going to invite my DD night before party like I have nothing else planned. We didn’t go to the party. It was really hurtful and I think I’m struggling to accept it more than my child

It really isn’t that deep. You’re placing a lot of feelings and thought into a 4 year olds friendship.

They’re not going to be friends with everyone, they’re not going to like or be liked by everyone, that’s life and it’s something she needs to navigate herself to become a confident, independent person.

It really isn’t that deep.

There will be other friends, there will be other parties.