How do other parents stop constant worrying about their children and future

[Pinterrin]

Please tell me. As a parent, how the hell do I not worry?

Since my eldest has hit preteen im plagued with worries of her adult life and whether she’ll cope… (she’s extremely sensitive and vulnerable)

I worry about my youngest as he has some developmental issues.

I worry about money as we only seem to make enough to make ends meet, nothing left over to save for the future.

I worry about myself (selfishly) and that I don’t get any time to do anything that I know will create future health. I don’t have time between work and parenting.

I know in the grand scheme none of this serious, I wish I could be a calm and resilient and happier parent, I show this on the inside but just feel irritable and tense mostly on the inside.

I just want to live a better / calmer life and be able to take things as they come but I’m constantly frazzled.

Is this just me now? I used to be a lot more chill in my twenties - and yes I was a mother then too. I feel like that version of myself is dead now.

Any tips. ? I know there’s a lot of self help books out there but these seem to be written for people who time to implement or don’t have children to worry about.

Thanks 🙏

I ponder this when I'm tired/overwhelmed/anemic.....basically energy depleted. When I'm not I tend not to ruminate or worry. Hormonal fluctuations can seriously dip me into these exact thoughts to.

I've kind of learnt to think that thoughts aren't truth, it's taken a lot of practice but I deffo don't worry to the extent I did. Do try and prioritize even an hour a week for you though, and make it non negotiable!