7 year old girl and friendship groups

[millenialmolly]

Hi, just looking for some advice really…

Daughter is Year 2. She’s not shy by any means but just hasn’t found a ‘bestie’.

When she was in a private nursery as a toddler she had a ‘best friend’ who moved on to another area etc. Since starting school in reception she’s made friends- she’s in a friendship group of 5 girls but the other girls have clearly defined ‘besties’ within the group and sometimes says she’s left out when they split off.

She’s a confident girl, goes to lots of clubs in and outside of school but I can’t help but feel sad for her. Sometimes she will express sadly that she doesn’t have a best friend and that the other girls get invited to play dates etc.

My husband and I are both teachers (though secondary) and understand this can be common but not really sure how we can help. The Teachers say she is popular and plays with the other children well.

any advice?

The Teachers say she is popular and plays with the other children well.

This is great news.
I do not see what you are worried about.
Plenty of dc (and indeed adults) don't have "a bestie" and are perfectly happy that way. Indeed, I would argue it is far healthier to be able to play / get along with people wherever you are, and have a variety of friends, than to rely on some sort of 'pairing off' with another child which leaves you on your own if they move away (as per the Nursery friend), or they decide to make a new "bestie" , or if they are just away on holiday or off sick.

As a parent, I reckon it is great news to be told my dc plays well with all the dc, and is popular.

Hi, thank you. I know you’re right. I guess it’s the being invited to play date thing, she feels left out.

Sometimes when I’ve seen her play with her friends as well it’s like she’s on the outside or edge of the group if that makes sense?