Am I over reacting?

[strongmamaxo]

My babys dad, so my ex had the kids over night on Friday. My son who’s 5 had PE at school so he had joggers and just a t shirt on. They came back today at 1pm and my son had his PE clothes on still? I asked him if he has slept in it and he said yes. It was obvious he did anyway as none of his clean clothes in his bag were touched? I sent clean pants, vests, socks, tops and bottoms and all was neatly placed how I packed it. I can’t help feel annoyed though. Dad sent him to bed with it on.
Maybe it’s not that deep but I just feel annoyed because I would never do that.

Baby dad?

I wouldn't do that either but unless he was dirty, it's probably not that big a deal.

my ex

How many children and what ages?

In some ways, that's irrelevant but a great many men are useless over children's clothes.

I don't suppose he made sure they brushed their teeth, either.

so he wore it at school, wore it to bed and then wore it home today?
I’d be really upset if that was my ds, but I doubt it meets any sort of threshold for concern unfortunately
has he been fed? Does he have a bed? Is he treated okish? That’s probably all SS would check

I wouldn't be happy
I'd be having words

..my babys dad, so my ex @strongmamaxo

What is even the point of posting this @Sandysandytoes

Op I would be annoyed as well. Is this usual? What sort of relationship do you have with your ex? I'm guessing that since you're posting here for a sense check that your ex is difficult and unreasonable to talk to, so I would pick my battles.
Make sure other care needs are met and if not, bring it up as a whole concern, but I'd be worried at this stage for this one thing you will come across as petty to your ex (I don't think you are but I can imagine it being twisted) and it might make him more difficult.

@Noshadelamp Exactly, you hit the nail on the head!! And nope. This is normal behaviour!!!! They never get bathed either when I request they need to. Getting sent home the next day in their pjs etc. I know it’s not a huge concern but still annoyed for the children. They are 5 and 2. I asked my 5 year old why daddy didn’t put your pjs on and he said “because daddy doesn’t care. He never cares” so sad

Because op said ‘baby’s dad’ but then mentioned a 5 year old - I’d be more concerned that someone who can’t put a 5 yo in pjs is looking after a baby too.

@Sandysandytoeshi, sorry for confusion. They are 5 and just 2. X

Do you have to let him have them? He’s fucking useless.

@Decacaffeinatednowi honestly have thought this so many times and not sending them , he wouldn’t take me to court anyway coz he actually cba and couldn’t afford to anyway. I wish he was a better dad but he cba , x