My friend’s H seems quite nasty. He is according to her a Jekyl and Hyde character and seems very critical and angry much of the time. She has told me several times now that he regularly screams at their three year old, reducing him to tears. She said that he expresses similar behaviour to the child as she does to her, so will play with him for an hour, but then suddenly turn on him and scream. I think this is abusive and clearly very damaging. Today I suggested she think about leaving and expressed how abnormal it is to regularly scream at a child and that it would be considered abusive. She looked very uncomfortable and immediately changed the subject. Has anyone got any ideas about what I do next ? He earns a great deal more money than her, so she’s possibly staying because she’s worried about the financial consequences, but doesn’t seem to understand the damage this will be doing to her child. I don’t think SS involvement will help, because presumably they’d both deny any problems .