Hello! I am in a unique situation and really struggling to make a decision as I feel so conflicted, and wondered if anybody could help.
My partner and I have two sons; aged 9 months and almost 3 years. We are due to get married this August so had planned to do a 3 night Italy honeymoon in September and leave the boys with my mum. However, my partner has since been rewarded an all expenses paid 5* Caribbean trip worth £20k+ for himself and I in June. This feels like the perfect opportunity to have an early honeymoon in a resort that we would never be able to afford ourselves, consequently freeing up our honeymoon allowance to take our boys on a trip to Disneyland in September. My son is absolutely obsessed with all things Disney and this would be a dream come true for him!
I am NOT usually a mum who leaves her children to do anything. I have never left my baby and have only left my son for the odd night with my mum (and always miss him like crazy), or for four nights when I had a C Section (we were both absolutely fine this time- I was distracted!). I am generally the more anxious type and worry about everything. But equally this trip means a lot to my partner, and I fell pregnant with my first aged 22 and haven’t had a break since! I don’t want to let anxiety get in the way of life experiences but am also terrified of my baby forgetting about me, feeling abandoned, or of something happening to them or me and us being separated.
The arrangement would be that my mother in law comes to our house to house sit with them for two nights, then my mum takes them to her house with the wider family who they know and love for the remaining nights. They are more familiar with my mum than my mother in law but do see her a few times a month.
Am I crazy for considering this given that it goes against my personal feelings? It feels like an exception to the rule and I would never have to do this again. But I worry so much about my babies!