Child called friend fat pig

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How would you deal with your child calling your friend a fat pig repeatedly?

Your child called your adult friend a fat pig? How old is your child?

Child is 4. Wasn’t my child. I just witnessed it and I wondered how other parents would deal with it. @Normasarse

Was the child upset with the person?

I would remove my child rapidly, have a very stern word, then (if appropriate) take them back to apologise. I say if appropriate because if the child was not sorry, and I thought they might do it again, I wouldn’t. I would make sure I apologised though.

4? Where did she learn that from?

No. Child thought it was funny actually. The child is normally nice to this adult

Good question. Who knows

I'd find out because whoever it is is teaching her how important it is to be slim and linking it to worth as a person. That won't serve your daughter well. At worst, it can set her up for an eating disorder.

Not my daughter but I hear you

I wouldn't care that much if it wasn't my child. If it were my child, I'd explain how name calling was mean, and remind them they wouldn't want to be called names, but not be overly sensitive about the use of the word 'fat'

The word isn't anymore or any less hurtful than many other adjectives that could have been used, IMO.

I wouldn't assume that 'fat' means fat to the child, any more than 'gay' meant a person was gay, when that was a rude playground insult, 20 years ago or more.
The child is trying to be funny and edgy and possibly doesn't realise how mean that is, or, unfortunately, thinks it is funny to be mean.

I would remove the child immediately, and do my best to impress upon him how wrong, unkind, and undignified it is to be a person who calls people names. I would try to impress upon him how hurtful this is. I would do some soul searching to try and figure out why my child is acting like this.

Likely a terrible upbringing if they speak to people like that already

One of my DD's friends called her fat outside school one day. She's only 5! I just said for my DD to ignore it and then luckily the parent of the kid who said it stepped in to say that wasn't very nice. I think she was trying to be funny and to be fair my DD didn't react so no harm done really. Not nice though. No idea where they get the idea that its ok to say these things though.

My DD did this to a friend of mine - repeatedly over an hour or so which was mortifying. She’s not badly brought up! But I think she realised it could shock and get her attention (that bit worked, she had an absolute telling off from me).

It happened just after her new sister was born, on a day which had been quite traumatic for her (she’d seen a family member get seriously injured).

Given that she’s not done it before or since, I think it was her way to get some control and attention at a very difficult time.

She was left in no doubt that we don’t make personal comments about people. But if it’s a one off, I’d think about the circumstances before I chose my response.