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Am I being overly protective or helpful parent?

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WhatIsPink · 07/04/2026 23:19

DD is in reception, and bubbly personality but can take a while to warm up, usually quite stubborn and clear about what she likes and chooses her own friends. She hasn’t had issues in nursery or reception, so I am not worried about her socially but i am after some opinions on what you think od the situation / scenarios.

Recently she went to two places, one holiday club and one drama club (those weekly ones), she loved them. The teachers were very friendly, almost a bit over friendly and gave her so much attention in her first session, she’s head over heels and totally loved it and wants to go back a join them. It’s a great thing that she loves it but I also tried her in may other clubs where teacher are still greta but more “normal” but she’s not very keen to go. It would be easy for me to just send her where she wants to go but at the same time, I’m concerned if I give her such an “easy” ride then she never going to enjoy in life by making her own way. By no means, the other clubs / teachers aren’t nice, they are probably just not focused on her by giving her excessive attention, also in my cynical thinking, that they aren’t as strongly going after the business as those two clubs she loved as they were small business owners who runs the club rather than employees.

this is more of an example that my DS generally enjoys clubs and makes friends to make best of it, he doesn’t fall for the extra attention. I am not comparing them but I am hoping my DD would be developed more like my DS so she can enjoy where she goes rather than rely on someone else to make her happy, especially there’s a bit sales involved. I am included not to sign her up with those two clubs but I don’t know if I’m being overly protective or that’s a valid concerns / development for her to “mark her way” with other clubs which she receives normal amount of attention and try to make her friends and still have a good time?

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Lindy2 · 07/04/2026 23:35

She's 5. I think you're over thinking this.

purpleme12 · 07/04/2026 23:38

I don't really get this post

If she wants to go and she can go then put her in for it.

2026Y · 07/04/2026 23:42

”I’m not comparing them but I’m hoping she can be more like her brother.”

Either way, sending her to holiday camps she prefers less isn’t going to make her less keen for the attention of the staff.

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Brightbluestone · 07/04/2026 23:46

Just send her to the one she likes. All the extra attention will stop once they’ve got your business and you’ve signed up for a term or whatever anyway!

Badoingyface · 07/04/2026 23:55

Send her to the clubs she enjoys.

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