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Joolyjoolyjoo · 19/06/2008 00:07

Hi. dd1(4) has been going to a little ballet class for the last year, and she seems to love it. So next week they are having their annual show, and they bullied persuaded lots of us to volunteer as dressers- fine. But now I realise I will be (deep breath) RESPONSIBLE for other people's children and I am hyperventilating at the thought!! We've all had disclaimers etc, so not worried about that. It's just that I am such a Calamity Jane, and I really don't want to mess up with someone else's kid!!! The other mums all seem so confident but I am shaking in my shoes! We have to watch over the kids in their dressing rooms, prevent them wandering about to see friends in other rooms, take them to the toilet if necessary, help them dress, attach any (gulp) hair ornaments- on the right side, mind!- and generally keep them calm and controlled!

Most of these kids will be older than 4- I don't know anything about kids older than 4!! They are allowed to eat snacks, but have to watch they don't eat things that might stain- how do I police that? What if I do their hair wrong and their mother takes out a contract on me? I can't sew (although thankfully there should be a dressmaker on standby!) unless you count surgical suturing (don't laugh- dd1s elastic on her ballet shoes is held on with a neat line of simple interrupted sutures!)

I wish i hadn't "volunteered" but I didn't want to look like a bad mammy! But in actual fact I feel like an imposter mum- I'm really not very good with kids that aren't my own! I don't know what to talk to them about or whether I should tell them off etc etc. I feel like a complete novice, and all those This-Is-My-Ninth-Child-To-Go-Through-the-dance-shows Ubermums scare the bejaysus out of me- they smell my fear and it makes them powerful. Sob! Someone tell me it will be alright (on the night!) Why oh why oh why didn't I stick to karate lessons?

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cory · 19/06/2008 09:53

I did this two years ago and felt like exactly you- but it wasn't so bad on the day. The dance school did a mix of experienced and un-experienced matrons in each dressing room and provided a very specific list of exactly what we had to do, ran like clockwork. We sorted out so that hair was done by Mums who were confident with that, I ended up doing basic makeup and toilet runs.

They do a show every other years, and my ds is in it this time, but I haven't volunteered. In the intervening years my dd has gone from a radiant confident dancer to being wheelchair bound, I can't cope with seeing all these other mums who aren't going through this, but I feel mean about it for ds's sake . It's going to be hard enough to watch the show. (Sorry for irrelevant hijack.)

Sugarmagnolia · 19/06/2008 12:57

cory - I'm so sorry, that must be so hard to cope with.

Jooly - I've just done this for the first time and it was fine! Well, fine in a I really needed a drink and a lie down in a darkened room afterwards fine kind of way, but still.

Seriously, most of the kids arrived dressed in their first outfits with hair and makeup already done and serious amounts of hairspray in to stop even the slightest movement. These girls were 6-7 so didn't need taking to the toilet but 4+ year olds shouldn't need too much help I wouldn't think. Basically it involved stopping them smearing lipstick all over their faces (bring a large pack of baby wipes!), putting on wigs & hats (bring lots of hair grips), helping them tie tap shoes and stopping them from jumping off the dressing tables and breaking an ankle (calm is probably too much to hope for). If their mums send them with snacks that stain then that's their own fault - you are not responsible! They will undoubtedly send them with lots of disgusting chewy sweets which they will pass out to everyone including your dd but there's not a lot you can do about that - just go with it.

I would bring:
wipes, tissues, hair grips, sticky tape (you never know!), safety pins, plus snacks you would like your dd to eat as well as some quiet games like a colouring book or travel connect 4.

Good luck!!

Joolyjoolyjoo · 19/06/2008 13:58

thanks for the replies girls- nice to know others have done it and survived!!
cory- I feel humbled by your story, that must be really difficult. What age is your dd now?
sugarmagnolia- some good tips there!! baby wipes are so fab, and I hadn't even thought of that! And games are a great idea too- that way I might not have to make awkward conversation with age groups I know nothing about!

I am assured that the inexperienced (idiots!) like me will be in a room with another REAL mum!!

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Sugarmagnolia · 19/06/2008 14:00

trust me they will be too busy running around with each other to want to talk to you! Try and enjoy it. And failing that, have a nice bottle of wine waiting for you when you get home. Seriously, it will be fine.

Romy7 · 20/06/2008 10:17

cory - dd1 and ds1 are dance show pros, whereas dd2 is pt wheelchair user - it's a bit rough, huh. are you taking dd too?

op - take 300 more hairpins than you conceivably could ever need - they will all be used, and at least 2 cans of hairspray. try not to let them charge around like lunatics as at least one will end up falling over and bleeding... but it is inevitable.

have a frazzled time and enjoy a calm vino later.

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