Hi, would love your honest opinions on an issue that's been raging on for over 2.5 years. I have a 21 year old stepson who moved in with my husband and I 4 years ago. When he finished his A-Levels I encouraged him to go and do a degree in music because the career he wanted needed a degree. He went on to uni but dropped out 4 months later. I found out he hadn't submitted any work during hus time at the uni. He then came back and has done nothing other than play Xbox, see his girlfriend and tune his guitar since this time - that was 2.5 years ago. He eventually managed to get a cleaning job via his Grandmother's company, Mon to Thurs, 6pm to 8pm but he often dies less than 2hrs work a day. He literally does nothing all week and never does anything in the house. My husband and I work our butts off to keep everything going. His girlfriend, also 21, works 1 day a week. Her parents don't have a problem with them doing nothing so let my stepson and her sit in her room and do nothing. Stepson disappears to hers for a week or so at a time with no contact with hus dad which upsets my husband. Dad has talked to his son about hus behaviour but nothing changes. I put my foot down last week and said enough is enough, get a job and get some counselling (which we would pay for) or don't come back. His mum is currently putting him up while he's in town and when not at mums he is at his girlfriends. Dad is ready to wash his hands of him. I'm probably evil stepmum who has standards which I think are fair. I'm just sick of his apathy, lack of direction and lies. He just seems to tell us what we want to hear but does nothing. Am I right to rake a hard stance on this?