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Would you feel uneasy about this nursery preschool room transition?

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Tinyacorn989 · 02/04/2026 13:33

I need some other parents advice as I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or whether I am right to feel uneasy about my child's recent experience at nursery. They have been attending nursery for several months now and absolutely loving it so far however they will be turning 3 soon and therefore will be moving out of the toddler room they are in now to the pre school room. They had their first session in preschool room a few days ago however a few things have made me uncomfortable about it.

When I went to pick her up I overheard a member of nursery staff speaking to her through the door and they were very harsh and abrupt with her, asking her where her peg was and getting audibly cross with her when she didn't know.

I have been potty training my child for about 5 weeks now and not once has she had a wet accident at home or at nursery however whilst spending a few hours in preschool and she had four wet accidents in her trousers which has really upset her and now she is really scared about having an accident, something I have never punished or told her off for.

The thing that worries me the most is just how upset she has been since visiting the pre school room. She has cried on and off for days saying things like "no playgroup" "not go to playgroup" "sad at playgroup" "I did bad". It is just so different to how she has been before and I'm worried that the staff in preschool room have been telling her off for having accidents as she seems really distressed and the thought of them telling her she has been bad breaks my heart as I never speak to her like that.

Am I being an over protective mum or would these things bother you too? Any advice would be appreciated.

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Peonies12 · 02/04/2026 13:37

That would bother me. You have to listen to your children. I’d be arranging to speak to the manager ASAP

Tinyacorn989 · 02/04/2026 14:14

Thanks @Peonies12 for replying. Its reassuring that you would also be bothered by it. She settled into nursery so well that this has thrown me a bit.

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Fupoffyagrasshole · 02/04/2026 14:21

Yeah that’s not normal op

have a meeting or find a new place to move her too!

my daughter was still needing a cuddle from
a staff member at drop off for a little while until she was 4ish at the pre school - they should still be caring and loving op !!

my daughter has even had the odd accident since starting school - it happens and they’ve never punished her!

thats awful op :(

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Daisymae55 · 02/04/2026 14:23

I’d definitely be organising a meeting with the manager to discuss all of this. This would all really bother me. If the meeting doesn’t present a satisfactory outcome, I’d look to move your child.

Tinyacorn989 · 02/04/2026 14:35

Thanks @Fupoffyagrasshole @Daisymae55 for replying. I always doubt myself but knowing that other people would also feel the same shows me that my gut feeling that something is not right is totally valid.

I'm going to request a meeting with the nursery manager as soon as they open after the bank holiday weekend.

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