New to the area mums group?

[3point142]

Hello,

I’m not from the area I live in. My children are in primary school and I feel very aware that lots of parents at the school gates know each other from being local and have shared history.

I’m curious to know if other people who are in the same situation as me (young school aged children, not local) would join a group for “new to the area” mums if there was one available? We’re past the stage of playgroups, etc. so perhaps I missed the boat on finding my “village”.

Does anyone have something like this near them?
Or do I just need to try harder to talk to new people in less socially engineered settings?

I think you would need a shared interest to both attract people and to bring people together.
Walking group, book group, craft group, campaign group, or whatever floats your boat.

I mean, if you specifically want to get to know other Mums of school age dc, then the PTA would be a good place to start even though, for some reason, PTAs have a bad press on MN.

I think why not try it op. You could even do it through your kids school and advertise it through the pta maybe?

I'm in similar shoes but a lone parent so getting out to hobby groups etc is impossible at the moment so I'd love something like this!

I suppose I thought (attempting to survive) raising young children was a shared interest 😅 maybe that’s not enough of a thread.

Yes, similar boat @Lavender14. I don’t have regular childcare to allow me to commit to hobby groups.

Maybe I need to be brave but I don’t know how I’d go about launching / getting people to join in without outing myself as a local loner (I do have friends elsewhere…). I’m scared of judgement!

I suppose I thought (attempting to survive) raising young children was a shared interest

I think it often is at the start - which is why there are so many baby groups in all their various forms.
But you are talking about having dc at Primary school, so several years in.

By that point, I was no longer walking through a fog of "I haven't got a clue what I'm doing", but was busy, back at work, and taking the dc to various activities they did, as well as living our own lives.
I have, over the years, become quite good friends with several parents of my dcs' friends, as we've stood together on the touchline of sports games, or shared lifts to activities, or arranged fundraisers for the Scout group, or walked to activities together, or waited over a coffee because it was too far to go home and get back when they were doing an activity.