Anxiety about taking high-energy 2.5-year-old out, need coping tips

[Raveceleste]

I have a 2 & a half year old who is ALOT.
I avoid taking her places because it just turns into an absolute nightmare. I know I need to get out more with her but the anxiety I get at the thought of having to deal with her out is just too much.
I’ve tried short trips to the shops etc but I don’t take her and do things with her and I’m starting to feel bad 😥

Have you triedtaking her to the park or some where else where she can burn off her energy?

Can you give us some examples please @Raveceleste? It’s a bit hard to judge or advise without details

Shops aren’t great for most toddlers.

soft play or enclosed parks are better - where they can have free run but within safe boundaries.

What kind of outings are difficult? Walk in woods? Puddle splashing? Challenge to collect a stick, leaf, stone, grass, flower? Feed ducks? Soft play? Visit a friend? Teddy bear picnic in park? Play park? Swimming pool? Playgroup in church hall?

And what is her behaviour like specifically?

Yes.i always do park or big walk of whatever before actual events.

I bring snacks and sticker books / small toys /drawing books...

Supermarkets are tricky i bought a tiny basket and she used to like carrying it about.
She could pick 1 x fruit and 1 x bakery item

My dd was like this as a toddler. I avoided shops and things that would trigger a meltdown from me having to say no. She stayed on reigns for a long time as she was a runner. Went to enclosed areas like playgrounds and soft plays to burn energy. transitions were so hard - like leaving the park for example. Timers and plenty of warnings helped with this a bit but she still struggle now at nearly 6 with moving from one thing to another.
The forest was very soothing for her - running free and climbing and being noisy. Do you have a beach near you? That would also work. Teddy bears picnics? Trampoline parks with lots of space.
Distraction constantly, making things into a game/competition where possible, letting her choose between two approved choices.
She did get more civilised eventually but is still a wild one ❤️‍🔥