My toddler is 20 months. When I became a mummy to them I was so happy, it felt magical and I really loved it. I found it easy, as I loved it so much. Fast forward to now & I have a 2 week old newborn who i adore. However, I am really struggling with this new dynamic as my toddler is struggling to adapt. I feel he isn’t very happy anymore and I am so at my wits end. He kisses the baby and wants to hold hands etc, but will suddenly turn and just scratch even though I’ve praised him on being so gentle prior etc. he doesn’t know his own strength so I have to hold him back to which he doesn’t like and then lashes out on the baby. It’s got to the point now where I am keeping them separate, can’t put the baby on a playmat etc until the toddler is in bed. I am just feeling heartbroken as this isn’t how I imagined having 2 kids. I didn’t expect to find it so hard. I rarely cuddle the baby unless I’m feeding him so my toddler doesn’t get too jealous but we are just not adapting well. My partner & I are constantly bickering when we had our first born it bought us closer if anything. Does it get better or do I have to accept my new life?