18 month old was sick in the night and I didn’t know until the morning !

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I feel so awful - my little one (18 months old) was sick at some point last night and didn’t cry so I only found out when I saw sick all over the cot this morning 😭 I feel so awful !

I always assumed that a sick toddler would cry if they weren’t feeling well and want their mum.

is it normal for them to not cry?!?

Oh stop it. Don’t be so utterly ridiculous

Yeah that happened to us about 15 months. When I went in in the morning she was sitting at the other end of her cot pointing at the sick as if to say “who put that there??”

She was in the room next to ours, I generally wake even if DC make quiet noises. I think she must have just not properly woken up, especially as she had no issue crying for us on other nights if she woke.

I think vomiting isn’t as bad for babies/toddlers as adults. Mine never seemed to find it particularly painful or uncomfortable, no retching etc, just vomit flowing out 🤢 I think that there’s something to do with the valve at the top of their stomach not being like an older child/adult’s - it’s why spitting up can happen, stomach contents can just flow up more easily.

I wouldn’t blame yourself.

It’s pretty self evident isn’t it? If a child is left to cry they learn there’s no point crying. Ferber literally recommends ignoring your child even if they vomit for example…. Not saying the OP has slept trained but it could explain it if she did with any form of CIO

Maybe it didn't upset her/him? My eldest around the same age was in bed with me first time he was sick - he woke me up to tell me "my face is all wet" . Yeeeech, yes, because he'd just puked all over himself!!! And my bed!! Aargh. Didn't have any understanding of what puke was, didn't realise it was something to get up het up about.

You can only sort what you know about. If you're not alerted you're not going to know. Toddler's fine, you're fine, it's all good.

Mine did this a few times. I’d go in and check on them and they’re fast asleep, sick everywhere. He’s such a deep sleeper, but no idea how he could be sick and not wake up! Luckily he’s grown out of it.

I had this when DD was around that age. I think she had just eaten too much dinner and it was a bit late, thrown up in bed and gone back to sleep (in it). She was happy as anything the next morning despite being absolutely covered in dried sick!

That nonsense theory comes from a study into a Soviet era romanian orphanage where the children were sadly severely neglected. How it still persists to this day is beyond me.

OP it happens. If baby were actually upset or remotely bothered they would have cried for you. My almost 9YO went to bed recently with a sick bowl recently as feeling unwell, puked in it overnight but missed a bit down the side of her bed and went back to sleep as apparently she felt better after being sick and was really, really tired 🤷‍♀️ My conclusion is kids are gross and not necessarily bothered like we adults would be.

Oh come on now. That's the silliest thing I've read in a while. What absolute tosh!

Wow, a lot of defensive people on this thread who left their children to cry!

As a few people said small children don’t see it as such a big thing, and unlike adults don’t have to feel awfully unwell to be sick.

Our daughter was recently sick in our bed, we’re normally fairly light sleepers if the kids make any noise, but we only woke up when it soaked through the duvet and made me think I’d wet myself.

Em I think I said I didn't sleep train, if you'd bothered to read.

I think you've hit the Chateauneuf it seems 🍷😁

I had a week of this once when DD2 was about three months (and definitely not sleep trained!). She’d caught some sort of gastro bug and each morning I’d go in and she’d be happy as Larry smiling away at me with a cot and hair full of sick. So disgusting and yet at the same time I was slightly relieved that she’d not woken me up between 2am feed and 6am as DH was away, I was already sleep deprived, toddler was getting up at 5am and the sick was easier to clear up dry…

10 years later and she’s still a total trooper when ill!

Mine did this too. I was horrified in the morning. What looked like a shadow on the fuzzy screen of the monitor was actually a puddle of sick! But she didn’t cry or make a sound at all, and was happy as Larry when she woke up.

Don’t beat yourself up. You weren’t to know, and there’s no harm done.

I haven’t sleep trained my daughter (similar age) and she never wakes up/cries when she’s vomited at night 🤷🏻‍♀️

We’ve had this happen too. Sometimes kids can be weird. If they don’t wake you up, how are you to know they’ve been sick? It’s just one of those things and is no one’s fault, try not to feel guilty!

These things happen, I’m sure mine did this at some point at a similar age. I know it’s easy to say but try not to feel too bad.

You want a gross sick story, last year I woke up to my DS who was 4 at the time standing inches from my face with his hands held out saying “mummy, I did a sick” and showed me his sick cupped in his hands 🤢 I jumped up and followed the sick trail he left from room to room that I had to clean at 3 in the morning. That was fun!

Factually wrong with both assumptions but please keep digging this hole you've gotten yourself into.

I didn’t say it was the only reason but could be one reason

Not true ! And upsetting for the OP .
I didn’t exactly sleep train my 3 but by the time they were much older babies I’d go in and maybe pat their backs gently but not actually lift them up if they were just a bit grumbly .
They eventually self settled .
But if they were ill or distressed they’d definitely cry and I’d go to them .

My little boy isn't sleep trained and still gets me up multiple times per night at 25-months and did exactly as the OP's little one did a few months ago and just quietly vomited and then slept in it. He vomited all over my bed in the morning last week and then just said "oh" and tried to wipe it off, so I don't think it's necessarily distressing for them if it feels better afterwards. It's not just them thinking nobody cares...

Ours did this at that age if they had a bad cough/cold so it was a coughing fit that caused the vomit, so we may have heard the coughs on the monitor but no crying so we didn’t get up - do they have a cold? The mucous can also cause them to be sick as they don’t get rid of the mucous the way adults do so it goes to their stomachs ( I think)

What absolute nonsense.
I sleep-trained mine and they always cried if they woke up feeling ill.
Every time. And of course, I went to them. Also every time.

Wow.

I've never left ds to cry, bf on demand and Co slept for a long time.

This still happened to us multiple times. In fact once even happened when he was in his car seat while we were driving and neither myself or my ex heard or noticed anything until we got him out of the car and he was covered in sick.

You're doubling down when really the appropriate response here is to acknowledge that your comment was unfounded and just unnecessary and places guilt on op where there shouldn't be any. For reference I work with kids with attachment challenges and would never say this to a mother because its not the issue at hand.

I made my 12 year old DD walk 2.5 miles to school and back for 2 days because I thought she was being dramatic when she said her ankle hurt.

Come day 3 and I took her to a&e after being sick of her moaning about it I found it was actually broken.

Now thats guilt. lol