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Awkward moment at birthday party

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tellmewhy3 · 15/03/2026 18:30

We were at my nieces 2nd birthday party today at my sisters house. There was an elderly relative there (my sisters husbands aunt). There were only 2 kids, my DD (3.5) and my niece. They were playing lovely, and then they both wanted to play with the same toy.

DD was getting upset that DN was trying to take it off her, and I was explaining that they were DNs toys and we take turns etc - she’s usually pretty good at sharing, but we do have moments. During this, the aunt got the wrong end of the stick thinking I was saying this to my niece and she shouted across the room at me ‘don’t you dare be so nasty to her, it’s your child that is selfish’.

I had never met this person before, the room full of mainly adults from BIL side fell silent and I wanted the ground to swallow me. My DH said ‘sorry but you have misunderstood, she is telling DD to share’ and she basically huffed off.

DD is a great kid, she loves her cousins and selfish is the last thing I’d call her. It was really awkward, and I just want to forget about it. Not even sure what I’m asking for, just moral support and reassurance in a week it won’t be replaying in my mind.

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IknowwhatIneedtodo · 15/03/2026 18:34

I wouldn't give it another thought. She's elderly & got confused & your DH stood up for you, so don't worry about it.

mindutopia · 15/03/2026 21:40

She sounds awful and also not in her right mind. I bet all of BIL’s family wished the ground swallowed them up.

NotDarkGothicMama · 15/03/2026 22:05

It was an unpleasant moment but this one's not on you OP. The aunt was rude, no matter whether she misunderstood or how old she is. Who calls a 3yo selfish? Confused I'd be mortified if she was my relative.

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tellmewhy3 · 15/03/2026 22:09

Thank you 💐 BIL did apologise for her, everyone was pretty mortified I think. I just want to sleep and erase it from my memory, I struggle with social situations as it is 😅

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