We don't celebrate mother's day.

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We have one son who is 30 and I have never encouraged him to celebrate Mothers Day. I believe that love and respect for family members should be celebrated everyday. Plus over the years I have seen Mothering Sunday turn into a commercial racket. Both my husband and I have a great relationship with our son and when he was little and made me a handmade card at school , I always thanked him and praised his 'artwork'. But that's as far as it went. I have a wonderful mother who also instilled in us to celebrate and respect one another daily. She also shunned it once we were old enough to understand. However, I am increasibly aware that those around us think its strange. Does anyone else out there think Mother's Day is just a forced con?

It’s only forced if it’s not celebrated willingly. I’ve never asked or been asked for anything for Mother’s Day. I think it’s lovely and I think there’s no such thing as showing too much love or appreciation for the people you care about. Life’s too short.

It doesn’t have to be big and flashy at all, small and simple is lovely. But also if someone wants to do something big and flashy for their mum/ mother of their children then as long as the mother enjoys it where’s the harm.

Completely fine if you prefer to ignore it but hope you frame that as a personal choice. If your son has children in the future, hopefully his partner isn’t made to feel silly or materialistic if she would like a little appreciation shown on Mother’s Day.

Okay then 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t believe Jesus is the son of God, but I still love decorating my house and having family around and eating traditional foods on Christmas.

Our culture is built around festive days and traditions. My family thinks I’m grand and celebrates me every day. It doesn’t mean I don’t still have a party and cake on my birthday, because traditions create lovely memories that carry on for generations.

That said, the only people I know who ‘think Morher’s Day is a commercial con’ are the ones who’d not be celebrated by the people around them. It’s like the people who ‘hate a fuss made over their birthdays’ who really just can’t cope with no one caring it’s their birthday.

Calling it "Mothering Sunday" exposes your true sentiment.

It's Mother's Day now and I'm getting pampered - yay!!

I don't think it's any more commercialised than it was when my mum was alive 35 years ago. I find it easy to avoid

I celebrate it as my mum is catholic (as am I but non practicing). It’s traditionally celebrated on the 4th Sunday of lent (mid lent).
The celebration goes back to the 16th century so has long been a tradition. My mum hates the term ‘Mother’s Day’ though so I have to hunt out a ‘mothering Sunday’ card every year!
I think it’s a nice tradition and yes, we should value and respect our mums all through the year but one day where they get a card and gifts isn’t really that big a deal and me and my mum love it.

I like it, I mean it is fine if you didn't do it no harm in not doing it, My.children liked their dad taking the to buy a card and flowers, it seems "cool" to not want their children to bother, complain about money making. Personally I think it is quite sad that a mum doesn't want a card.

I am having lunch with my grown up dds later and looking forward to it.

I only ask for one thing from my kids, a handmade card. I love looking back at them and seeing how their handwriting has changed etc.

My kids are young so like to celebrate but they’ve all made cards, partner has bought flowers and chocolates but that’s it white simple
im Mum/Mummy every day I don’t need a day plus me and DP have both lost our Mums so an element of sadness.

Why on earth make a post about it then?!! I don’t celebrate religious festivals, but I’ve never found the need to post that I don’t celebrate them as it doesn’t even enter my head. Sounds like you’re not entirely comfortable with your decision if it’s playing on your mind like this.

Everyone I know who has a mother ‘celebrates’ by giving a card. Same as 30yrs ago. I don’t really understand all this handwringing about it. I don’t follow random people on social media, so have no idea why they do, but good luck to them if they want to something that suits them. I don’t feel the need to act superior about it.

I love and care for my dm every day and i celebrate Mother’s Day…it’s doesn’t have to be one or the other! I have just had tea and toast brought up to me in bed, why?… because that’s what happens most Sundays in this house not because it’s Mother’s Day. My dc have gifts for me too, and it has just been my birthday this week too so I have had two celebrations. I feel loved all the time tbf.

Aye alright Ma Walton

I’ve never given my mother anything as she doesn’t celebrate anything. With my own children, I do like to receive a card and hopefully a present. I hate all the commercialism though.

I really enjoy it but then I enjoy all special occasions throughout the year, any excuse for a little celebration!

Well, continuing with the religious calendar references, I suggest that in many cases, the rituals of Mother’s Day are an observance rather than a celebration.

Well if you do celebrate mother's day surely you also celebrate father's day? Unless of course dads are not as important as mums? My daughter has two parents and both are as equally important to her.

It's a nice excuse for a bunch of flowers snd lunch out. It's not a big deal but we do "celebrate" mother's day and fathers day.
DH and husband family didn't but SiL and I wanted to so we all do.
DH, DS, me and my mum will all enjoy our lunch absolutely glass of wine. Normal day otherwise. I'm going to my Sunday morning class, mum will be at church, DH is going for a run.
We will watch the F1 on catch up when we get home.

My mum has always felt like this. She thinks the same about Christmas & the rest of it… She thinks that only birthdays are important. So, we sometimes do a small token gift or a card (from the kids) for any of these special occasions. But ther’s no upset if we don’t. She’s passed this onto me. None of it is a big deal, but I’ve bought something for DS to give me. I consider flowers a waste of money! I’d rather choose my own…

Hmmm but surely it’s not up to you? You can’t really celebrate yourself. Though perhaps there should be a day for that, too.

What you’re saying is that your family must go on celebrating you. Adjourning the full Mothers Day ritual to Easter to celebrate is unusual, when more people would phone or text today if they weren’t together but have a family day when reunited.

You can do whatever you like, op. You can also pick and choose-the fact that it’s increasingly commercialised doesn’t mean that everyone who marks Mother’s Day has to engage in that. I got a cup of tea in bed and suspect I’ll be receiving handmade cards and flowers from the garden- lovely and zero cost.

I dont think it's strange if you don't want to celebrate it. We do celebrate it. But I also show appreciation to my mum all year round as well. I've bought her a few gifts and I'm going to cook a roast later. My ds have not acknowledged the day yet, but that's fine.

I love Mother’s Day. It’s ok if it’s not your thing but personally I think it’s great. But not the over priced tat and the queues in the shops for flowers etc. I just like a nice thoughtful card and it’s lovely if any of my dc pop in through the day.

im a retired foster carer. I get lots of cards from most of the lovely now grown children that I’ve cared for over the years.

it’s a given in my family that you appreciate each other everyday regardless of whether it’s a mothers/Father’s Day etc. doesn’t hurt to remind someone how special they are to you

I have a friend who says Valentines, Mother's day,etc is only commercial. Because she never received a single rose for Valentines or card for Mother's day. I'm pretty sure she would be more than happy to celebrate, however she is in denial mode. And yes, she says the same "oh,we love each other every single day ".

It’s very low key here, there may not be cards as the older 2 are away and the youngest has currently had pocket money stopped 😂
Dh is making a nice roast and the youngest is on pudding duty.
im heading out in a bit to do some stuff for my mum but will be back by lunchtime and Sunday will continue as a normal day, catching up on washing and ill prep my lunches for the next couple of days.
May have a walk if the weather holds up.
It’s just a regular Sunday tbh, low key just as I like it.

No. Yes I know my kids love me and they show me that but it’s also nice to have a day when they do something extra and perhaps reflect on what I mean to them. Surely it’s not one or the other - you can say that about any holiday from Remembrance Day to Christmas. However it’s not a big deal here - my kids are away (uni) and it’s not on their radar. If they were here they might make a roast lunch or a cake, but I wouldn’t want them to buy me anything.

I meant to say Mothers day was just as commercial 30 years ago than it is now, cards/gifts/ lunch was all happening, the only thing that has changed is probably the Internet advertising, the shops were full of tatt.