Miserable 8.5 month baby

[Bethymum]

Feeling so down. My baby is so often miserable and it’s even harder comparing him to my very happy babies of friends. Doesn’t cry that much but is usually moaning and just generally unhappy. No allergies and sleep is ok. I held hope that once he crawled and was mobile he’d be better, but nope. Crawling and still miserable. I try to be positive, but I’m running out of steam. Felt tearful last few days which is unlike me but it’s been going on for so long, it makes me feel like such a rubbish mum. I just need advice to keep me going?

Some babies just don't enjoy being a baby.
I had one. It was awful.
But he became a delightful preschooler, and is a fabulous teen. There is still hope.

Do you go out much? I remember at that age having to be out ALL the time. Soft play, park, cafes, I'd be exhausted by end of the day but it was the only way to keep him happy. He's a toddler now and he STILL hates being indoors. The park is his happy place.

As a PP said, my second is a baby who hates being a baby. My 1st one, DS was (and is) a real cheery character from birth but DD is pretty furious any time she’s not fully stimulated and entertain. From a newborn until she was able to sit at 5 months, I couldn’t put her down on a mat without blowing bubbles for her or she’d just get cross. Sitting briefly helped, then she was mad again until she mastered crawling. She’s 15 months now and it’s got a lot better recently due to the combination of her walking confidently and the weather getting a bit better. She has always hated being trapped inside so we just get her out as soon as she gets too grumpy.

I’m in exactly the same boat and have just started taking anti depressants. I was hesitant because I knew I wasn’t necessarily depressed but I also knew I was struggling and not enjoying life. So far they’ve really helped

I was a miserable baby myself when iw as young my mother showed alot of care and patience. It worked out for her because i worked hard to make her happy as i grew up, before she passed.

I had one of those! My daughter was incredibly temperamental too and disliked being a baby! Now loving life as a four year old, she is cheerful and full of fun. Still very full on, I'm not going to lie.. but in a different way!

Fuck off. PPD and PPA are very real and the temperament of babies can affect this. Would you rather a baby be left without a mother if things get too much? Grow up and take a long hard look at yourself

What a disgusting and vile comment. Shame on you for writing a comment like this and bringing a mum down for looking after herself.

Agreed! A happier mum helps develop a happier baby/child/young adult. No one should be shamed for taking a brave step

Also @Bethymum you sound like a wonderful mum. Some babies love a whinge but grow up into delightful toddlers. Hang in there and seek support from wherever you can if you need it

What a horrible mean reply, you should be ashamed of yourself.

You do what you need to in order to be the best you can be for yourself and your family. Or in some cases in order to just be at all. ❤️

Just to say my 6 year old was a very happy chilled baby and she is now a very emotional 6 year old 😅

You just never know what each phase will bring but please get support if you need it.

Yeah same here! Mine is 17 months now and we find being home tough; shes so bored. Fine when out. OP it’s nothing to do with your parenting; that’s how your baby is unfortunately. And it will change. Well done for getting support and glad it’s helped

Ah yes, because seeking medical treatment for mental health is obviously the same as “numbing yourself to your child’s emotions.”

alternatively…it’s a parent responsibly looking after their health so they can cope and show up for their child to be the best parent they can be.

wild concept, I know.

I sincerely hope that if your own child ever struggles with their mental health, they feel safe getting help rather than being shamed for it as you have done here.

Oh fuck off you troll.

Happy Mothers Day to everyone else in the comments 💕

I am in complete disbelief what I have just read here. What an absolutely vile thing to say. Being a mum is incredibly hard let alone if you then have a higher needs baby. Looking after our own mental health is the number one priority.

Happy Mother’s Day!

What an absolutely wild take on someone trying to do the very best for her baby and family. Any reason you felt the need to try and tear them down? must be lovely up there on your pedestal. Urgh

Get back under your slimy miserable rock you vile cretin.

Imagine saying something like that to a mum who is brave enough to share her mental health and parenting a young baby struggles to support another mum in a similar situation. Just no.

Thanks for the responses. I’ll ignore the troll. Happy Mother’s Day all

I can't decide if you're uneducated or just a dick. Go read up on post partum depression and post partum anxiety. And all the hormones that come with breastfeeding, that come with our periods, how hard it is to deal with lack of sleep. And read up on how anti depressants work.

What a sad thing to see, especially on Mother’s Day. Imagine tearing another mum down for sharing about her struggle with mental health. I hope your cruel words haven’t set her back and you can think twice next time you are cowardly sat behind your keyboard.

Happy Mother’s Day everyone! I also have a nine month old and it is tough going! Delighted to see most of us mums like to support each other with kindness.

I agree with getting out,every day rain or shine get out and get fresh air.

My first was just like this. Adult now and is still wonderful, and happy.

I found going out every day helped, not just to keep him entertained but to provide me with a bit of adult company