Margot Robbie - had a baby last year

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No shade just genuine curiosity

She had a baby in 2024 and given her schedule with the film etc how does it work does a nanny literally look after the child full time? Do you think she misses him?

As a full time mum to my toddler with no help at all I’m just so curious about these women who continue life as if they haven’t had a child and look amazing quite soon afterwards too. Are they wired differently?

I support what @VimesandhisCardboardBoots said. Admittedly it was a long time ago, but I used to watch ER and remember the character Carol Hathaway going back to work two weeks after having her baby. Presumably that was because that’s all the leave the law allowed, and she could afford.

The programme was set in Chicago, and presumably was accurate for that city at the time.

can we work on the basis that we’re all full time mothers, regardless of whether we have paid employment or not
I know I didn’t stop being a mother when I go into the office - and Margot is probably the same

Plus it was produced by the production company she runs with her husband. So they could have made the schedule and the set as baby friendly as they like. They’ll probably have rented a lovely house nearby and had the baby on set during the day.

Out of interest OP, when your child starts school, will you consider yourself a part time mum?

My first thought too.

Also, going back to work when baby is 3-6 months old is very common around the world. And only a tiny proportion of babies are exclusively breastfed at that age.

It’s worth pointing out that she earned $15m upfront for her role in Wutheting Heights and is clearly the breadwinner in her marriage.

So you just make it work, don’t you, lol.

The director of the film is a mother of two very young children too.

Private planes and healthcare on tap too. I really don't think she's struggling.

I imagine the tricky bit for celebs is when their child starts school and they do want to be in one place for their child's education.

I bet she spends more time with her child than most working mothers. Nanny will be with them on set. Actors also don't work continuously so she'll have downtime between jobs when she can choose to be at home. It'll be very doable.

Save your concerns for impoverished women around the world who leave their children entirely or for months at a time to earn enough to pay for their upbringing back home, that's far more common than megastars going back to work early.

To answer the original question in the OP, I suspect women who take parenthood in their stride and maintain their careers, resume their exercise regime, and expect nothing less than an equal share of childcare with their partner are “wired differently” than those who are consumed by motherhood, give up on any sense of identity, martyr themselves and whose expectations of the father of their baby are in the gutter.

Yes, agree with this. The money to afford help makes a huge difference.

I know someone who was one of three nannies to a celebrity, they worked in shifts so there was always a nanny available.

I went back to work when DD was 10 months old (no choice at all, single parent on one income, so money had to be earned). So no working mother bashing here just an acknowledgment that having lots of help must make it easier.

I worked in the film industry, similar situations. Lead actors would be able to have their baby with them - we found them beautiful houses, flew their nannies and coparents out, even imported specific products from other countries where we were shooting in more remote locations. Most cast members only have a few call days in general, and the lead actors who have long shoots will be very very well looked after, as they are the stars.

Production staff do not get the same privileges, but still work on location for 4 months at a time. Which is why I am no longer in the film industry.

Julie Andrews' autobiography talks about this. She was 3 months pregnant when Walt Disney offered her Mary Poppins and he said he'd wait. I think her daughter was 6m old when filming started, the nanny went with her and she spent all the time not filming with her daughter. Arguably better than working 12 hour shifts......

My MD told me he ‘can’t imagine’ how difficult it is to leave DS at nursery when I first started back at work. The Man has two kids!! Presumably missing them and worrying about them was his Wife’s job when they were little 🙄

Unlike the rest of us mere mortals, she’ll have round the clock travelling childcare. I was doing 6 hours a day of travel when my babies were 11/12 months old. Leaving them home with Dh and nursery. How much easier it would have been to have staff who just waltzed in and out with my babies as needed. Also realistically, filming is a lot of hurry up and wait. Long days but you can spend a lot of time just sitting around eating snacks and drinking fancy fizzy water. I’m sure she probably has it easier than most of us running for the last train to get home before bedtime.

She will have signed for that movie long long before she was pregnant, she can’t just drop out, she’d be sued. So she had to do it. Baby would be with her on set with a nanny.

What do you mean does she miss him. You can’t actually have thought she fucked pff amd left her infant child. Not Really? Even basic common sense would say she signed for thay movie long before she was pregnant, was contracted and the baby came with her,

and all mothers are full time. Do you mean you’re unemployed and do nothing but be a mother? This doesn’t mean other women are part time mothers.

Also you ask this

l I’m just so curious about these women who continue life as if they haven’t had a child and look amazing quite soon afterwards too. Are they wired differently

no one does this, unless they give their child up for adoption, no one behaves like they hadn’t had a child. All women care for their babies. Their children, and parent them. No one needs to be unemployed to do it;

and if you don’t like the term unemployed, then don’t start calling working mothers part timers or behaving like they have not had kids. And looking amazing is about the individual not their employment status,

as for wired differently. Wired differently to who. You? Yes I’d assume so.

Claire Foy went to work on The Crown with a tiny baby and she said she just took her on set. There were loads of gaps in filming and lots of standing round. Margot Robbie can probably demand breaks and a nanny on set etc. I doubt she has to wait for the baby to nap so she can put a wash on!

Do you think anyone’s asked her husband how he manages to have a job and be a parent?

I hate it too. I have fun with it now and enjoy seeing their face when I say no.

Op also if it helps, it took 2 and a half months to film and she was paid 15 million.

The child has two parents snd assuming she didn’t marry some feckless loser who thinks it’s her job to do all the child care, I’d assume he was ther as well as excellent Nannies for this 10 weeks or so and she got to spend lots of time with her baby, even when she was sitting for hours getting her make up done.

wired different, yeah I’d have worked for ten weeks for 15 million brought my kid with me, so maybe I’m wired the same as her.

Nannies and husband are probably there with her on set or near by.

Ohh interesting responses! didn’t mean to ruffle any feathers - genuinely didn’t know they had Nannie’s on set, hence asking 😂 also I know a mother personally who left her baby with a full time nanny and told us she didn’t miss them when travelling for work so it’s not completely unheard of….

Re the term full time/part time, I meant full time looking after them (with no nursery, partner or nanny etc)

Its not that deep- I’m curious to people’s situations and how they feel

also I don’t know any mums who even consider their husbands/the fathers looking after the child in a big way… maybe the circles I move in aren’t great parenting 😄

Was she asked if she missed her baby? Or did she just randomly say that she didn't miss her baby?

Me too.
Me and DH both travel with work fairly regularly and I get asked all the time how I can leave DS, do I miss him and who is looking after him.

DH has NEVER been asked those questions.