Shock pregnancy with a toddler

[Mummmyto1]

hi everyone,
I was hoping for some advice if possible please?
i think i am pregnant and my head is a complete mess.
i have a wonderful two and a half year old son who I adore, but he is full of energy and life. Me and my partner always planned to have one child.
I had him at 22, I am now 25 as is my partner.
my son was planned and I had an arranged c-section due to him being breech.
today I took a pregnancy test by chance as by boobs have been sore.
while taking the test two line immediately showed up I was in complete disbelief, it has completely knocked me sick.
I have no idea what to do or what life could look like?
I just wanted to ask if anyone is pregnant and has a toddler or if anyone has had this situation before. What is your life like? Is it hard? Do you have any regrets?
some days are difficult, but I wouldn’t change them for the world. I just couldn’t imagine doing it with two?
this is a complete shock, I developed adenomyosis after having my son and was told my chances of having anymore chance may be slim.
any advice would be appreciated, I feel completely lost.
i have told my partner and we are both just in utter disbelief, we are both sleep deprived from my little one being up in the night so we said we will have a good chat tomorrow.

i have already posted on pregnancy topic but may be more relevant here thankyou xx

I was in a similar ish situation - we did actually want lots of children but struggled conceiving DS1 and ended up having him by IVF after 5 years. Assumed he would be our only one and poured all our energies and love into him.

Got pregnant completely by surprise when he was 2.5 years old. Pregnancy was hard with a toddler in tow but fine really after the first trimester.

Is your DS in nursery? We kept our nursery days the same when DS2 was born, on the days I had them both it was obviously harder than with only one but you quickly find a rhythm and keeping baby in a sling makes everything much easier.

My boys are now almost 6 and 2.5 and play really well together, yes there are hard days and I do feel worn out sometimes but I wouldn’t change a thing and it’s so lovely seeing their bond develop.

I have 2 under 2 currently, 22 month & 4 months, it can be hard but honestly it doesn’t feel much harder to me than having only my daughter did and personally I found the change from no kids to one much harder than one to two, maybe because I had more confidence this time round, more experience, was already in the routine of having a child rather than just living for myself etc.

My second pregnancy was so much easier than my first in terms of symptoms, no sickness second time round really, but it was harder especially in my third trimester because as I already had a toddler (who has never slept well) I didn’t have the same time to rest, sleep, relax as I did in my first pregnancy. Totally manageable though and I would say I found my third trimester with a toddler much harder than actually having a baby and a toddler!

I suppose the biggest difference though is we did always want another baby and were actively trying to conceive. Only you and your partner can decide if another child is what you want but I honestly can say in my experience the jump from 1 to 2 so far hasn’t been too bad and if your son is 2.5 now he would be nearly 3.5 by the time this baby makes their arrival, they mature a lot during that time so what life is like could look very different by then. Good luck whatever you decide x

Im currently 6 months pregnant and my son will almost be 3 years old when baby number 2 is born. First trimester was really tough for me. Just entering the third now and we're about to start potty training!
We both work full time. My son goes nursery 2 days a week while me and my partner are at work, then my partner has him 2 days a week while I'm at work and his nana has him one day a week. I end up doing most of the weekends on my own as partners works weekends.
Some days have been incredibly tiring and once he's in bed I'm amazed that I've got through another day - but it's only a short time in the grand scheme of things. I know the next few years with a toddler and a newborn are going to have their own set of challenges, but we've got through everything thrown at us so far and each time a "phase" comes to an end, I realise how short of a time it really was.
I'm excited to see them grow together, and to be able to have each other through life is something I think is worth the extra work. But this is my life, and only you know your capacity for another child. Happy, healthy parents are the most important thing a child needs

A 3 year gap is pretty perfect, you'll be fine. You are quite young still, it's quite smart to get these early years done and out of the way now. I totally understand how daunting it must feel but it will be great. Congratulations!

Thankyou so much for your replies.
it makes me feel a lot better about things.
the shock of finding out really took me back.
as someone said the change of going from non to one is the hardest part xx

At 2.5 you'll have potty trained him before the baby arrives and he'll be 3 (its an easier age in lots of ways vs 1-2 and way easier than a newborn and 20-24m old) and you may be on mat leave when he starts school

I had 2 under 2 it was hard in 1 yr (but baby was in NICU for a month and i had 3 surgeries when they were 9m 1yr and 16m) but it was what I wanted and have no regrets.

I found 0-1 a big shock and 1-2 okay-ish...

I am pro choice and if you dont want to / your dh will resent the child for life / you just cant then have an abortion.
for me personally now I have had children and given i am in a stable marriage I'm not sure i could have an abortion but everyone's circs are different. Eg. If I knew my husband would leave and knew I wouldn't cope alone (mentally) my choices might well be different.
I would take tike to process it properly.

Also with this age gap you won't need the dreaded double stroller.