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Supervised contact and ongoing investigation.

10 replies

mamabear062022 · 01/03/2026 13:01

Hello
Nearly 2 months ago my daughter disclosed that her dad was touching her inappropriately (tickling her vagina). She would ask me to tickle her down there, and when I say no- that’s inappropriate, she’ll get distressed, cry and beg me to tickle her. I have got everything on video. I have contacted NSPCC for advice. They advised to contact the police.

I called 999 and reported what had happened. At the time, he was outside my home, banging on the door and demanding to take my daughter because he supposed to have that day. The police arrived immediately. I showed them the video evidence and explained everything. He was arrested at the scene.

He was released on bail later that same day and denied all allegations. My daughter underwent a medical examination and a formal interview, but no substantial evidence was found.

Soon after his release, he began requesting contact with our daughter. Social services became involved and recommended supervised contact. He asked for his father to supervise. I refused and made it clear that if contact were to take place, it must be supervised by a registered childminder.

After approximately one month, supervised contact began. He now sees our daughter once a week for three hours, supervised by a registered childminder. He buys her lots of expensive gifts every week.

As I am returning to work, I asked his parents for help with childcare. They stated they would only help if I agreed to allow them to supervise all contact. I refused.

I’m deeply concerned about the future, particularly if the police decide to close the case. I do not trust him. My daughter’s safety and wellbeing are my absolute priority. I agreed to supervised contact because I did not want to be perceived as deliberately trying to exclude him from her life. He has accused me of planning to leave with our daughter.

any help is greatly appreciated 💛

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MCF86 · 01/03/2026 13:20

Please look at other childcare options I wouldn't trust them not to have him around! How old is your daughter?

If I've followed the timeline correctly, the current set up has been about a month, and there was a month before between the arrest and the contact being organised? Have you got a social worker?

mamabear062022 · 01/03/2026 13:25

@MCF86Yes there’s a month between the arrest and contact. Yes we’ve got a social worker.

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Pumpkindoodles · 01/03/2026 13:28

What? You didn’t want to be accused of keeping her abuser out of her life?
this seems like a perfectly fine thing to be accused of.

Easterbunnygettingawrapping · 01/03/2026 13:31

Does he pay cms? He should be instead of buying gifts.

MO0N · 01/03/2026 14:23

I would be trying to figure out a way to poison this man without anyone realizing.

MO0N · 01/03/2026 14:28

Obviously I wouldn't actually murder him but my efforts would be to do with preventing myself from killing him rather than worrying about excluding him from my daughter's life.
As for accusing you of planning to leave with your daughter, this is a man who is grooming a two-year-old child into sexual activity with him. Of course you want to fucking well keep this monster away from her!!!

wishfulthinking25 · 01/03/2026 14:38

This must be really hard on you OP, I’m sorry. He would never, ever be seeing my child again. I’m shocked he’s allowed any contact at all

DontGoChasinWaterfalls · 01/03/2026 14:46

Why on earth are you asking his parents for childcare....

mindutopia · 02/03/2026 12:17

I have 2 abusers in my life (they didn’t abuse my children specifically). I do not allow anyone in their orbit who is a sympathiser around my children. Like hell his parents would be anywhere near my child. You need either help from your family or proper paid for childcare who will work with you to keep her safe (not releasing her to him if he turns up making threats). Abuse is so often intergenerational. I’d be raising some eyebrows myself at his suggestion of his dad doing the supervising.

Randomchat · 02/03/2026 12:27

I can't believe you're asking his parents for childcare when you've said you don't want them to supervise visits.

He's their son, of course they're going to believe him. Of course they will let him see dd on their time.

You need to look elsewhere for childcare.

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