Dd refuses to use the potty (but will at nursery)

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DD is two years and eight months. She attends nursery two days a week and they’ve been subtly pressuring me to potty train her. The problem is, she just really won’t cooperate with it at home - she just refuses the potty. It’s identical to the ones they have at nursery too! She also has a travel potty she chose herself and some ‘big girl pants’ but she just keeps saying no potty and asking for a nappy.

I don’t really know how to deal with it to be honest. I am inclined to be relaxed about it and let her initiate it herself but as her third birthday approaches I do feel a bit judged when she’s in nappies out and about!

Just get rid of the nappies, stop buying them.
Get a seat with steps for the toilet.

When I tried going cold turkey she just pee’d constantly (she drinks absolutely loads) - we do actually have a step but she won’t use it and I was advised to encourage the potty when training my first, but either way, she won’t use either so we are a bit stuck.

Stay in one room initially, with the potty, and watch her like a hawk - every time she starts to pee, put her on the potty with loads of praise/stickers/chocolate buttons.
Drinking lots and peeing lots is great as it gives lots of opportunities for practice,
Dedicate 3 days to just concentrating on potty training.

Thank you. I think that’s the tricky part - we’ll have to try to stay in!

Dress her in thick joggers to absorb the wee 😊

They change so quickly at this age. Put the potty away for a month and then try again. I tried twice a month apart with dd and she wasn't ready. Then the third time she was and just got it straight off.

Lots of support here ⬇️

eric.org.uk/potty-training/

I would put the potty away for a few weeks and then try again. My little one refused potty for months of offering / taking a break / trying again, until one day she just sat on it and it took a week to no accidents at home and at nursery. No need to stress yourself other yet xx

She's clearly ready as she's using a potty at school and asking for a nappy when she's going. And every time you go get a nappy and put it on she's getting your attention. Stop putting on a nappy when she asks, ignore any accidents - change her clothes without any conversation, hugs etc and go over the top with praise if she uses the potty.

@Prancingpickle she is ready in a physical sense but if she refuses to do it she’s getting even more attention. I do think it’s sensible to not turn it into a battle of wills, but I’m hoping to encourage her to actually want to use it and engage with it. Once she does it will be a breeze but until she doesn’t it’s going to be somewhat trickier to say the least.

Thanks, all. I’m inclined just to leave it a while but nursery are using it so there’s no real way of avoiding it altogether.

Bribe with chocolate x

She isn’t really motivated by food sadly … unlike her mother! I’m anyone’s for a Ferraro Roche!